A few days ago Barbara wrote something to the effect that sometimes we (parents) get 'stuck' in a particular emotional phase of our kids lives. Most probably at the 'emotional age' where they began to have significant struggles. (Barb, I'm sorry I can't find the direct quote). But, I have been pondering this for several days. And while I certainly believe it to be true, I can't unravel it in my mind. For me: My daughter is married. A mother. 19 years old. She is by all standards doing OK. Well in fact. And yet - I have a hard time seeing her as an ADULT. I still fight overwhelming desires to correct her. Give unsolicited advise. To worry myself sick over the 'what ifs'. For me I think part of this may be due to the fact that I missed 16 months of her adolescence while she was in residential treatment. So those months are kind of just gone. Help. I would love to understand if other moms are 'stuck'. And if so ... WHY? How do we move forward??