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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 330835"><p>It is more complicated and heartbreaking due to the grandkids.</p><p></p><p>Unless she was leaving out information (always a possibility) the situation at hand as far as New Year's Eve went, would not influence the grandkids. Going out would have been a much needed relief. It would not/shoudl not have caused any other problems on the homefront. But, the two of them (particularly the husband) were despondent and almost paralyzed by new information they had just received about yet another unwise decision on the part of one of their children.</p><p></p><p>It was just more of the same old "stuff." Poor decisions made by one of the kids that would have future repercussions. Their adult "children" tend to do this. And their parents have helped repeatedly in major ways and they are exhausted. They were very upset to the point of "sick."</p><p> </p><p></p><p>I have so been there done that. And yes, I do feel sorry for them. We have had conversations about it all many times in the past. </p><p></p><p>Especially since what happened was not an emergency, it was a great opportunity to have some relaxation time. However, even when they had a chance to get away from "it all," they weren't able to do that 'cause "it all" was following them in their thoughts.</p><p></p><p>This, in my humble opinion, is no way to live. Sadly, I too have been there done that. Of course, as her friend, I want more for her. However, all those times we talked...it was NOT her time to hear.</p><p></p><p>LIke is often the case with our difficult children, she and her husband had to "hit bottom." For some reason, although this situation was not an emergency, it hit them hard....kinda between the eyes. It was more of the same...like they are on a treadmill to no where and they just couldn't take it anymore....hence they could not enjoy themselves at New Years Eve and instead stayed sick in bed.</p><p></p><p>I am praying for their strength and wisdom. Their situation is very very confusing, heartbreaking and difficult.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 330835"] It is more complicated and heartbreaking due to the grandkids. Unless she was leaving out information (always a possibility) the situation at hand as far as New Year's Eve went, would not influence the grandkids. Going out would have been a much needed relief. It would not/shoudl not have caused any other problems on the homefront. But, the two of them (particularly the husband) were despondent and almost paralyzed by new information they had just received about yet another unwise decision on the part of one of their children. It was just more of the same old "stuff." Poor decisions made by one of the kids that would have future repercussions. Their adult "children" tend to do this. And their parents have helped repeatedly in major ways and they are exhausted. They were very upset to the point of "sick." I have so been there done that. And yes, I do feel sorry for them. We have had conversations about it all many times in the past. Especially since what happened was not an emergency, it was a great opportunity to have some relaxation time. However, even when they had a chance to get away from "it all," they weren't able to do that 'cause "it all" was following them in their thoughts. This, in my humble opinion, is no way to live. Sadly, I too have been there done that. Of course, as her friend, I want more for her. However, all those times we talked...it was NOT her time to hear. LIke is often the case with our difficult children, she and her husband had to "hit bottom." For some reason, although this situation was not an emergency, it hit them hard....kinda between the eyes. It was more of the same...like they are on a treadmill to no where and they just couldn't take it anymore....hence they could not enjoy themselves at New Years Eve and instead stayed sick in bed. I am praying for their strength and wisdom. Their situation is very very confusing, heartbreaking and difficult. [/QUOTE]
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