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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 330887"><p>MM.. What a GREAT story. I am so sorry about your mother. Sad and it sooo reminds me of my difficult child and her antics. So glad your aunt spoke with- you and you found the strength to go out even though you had significant emotional pain to push through.</p><p></p><p>Look what your wrote: "<em>Best gift she could have given me. <strong>I dragged my pathetic tush to the shower, got ready, and went out.</strong> It was a <strong>good choice</strong>, <u><strong>best I could have made.</strong></u> The thing is, it was made for me, I wouldnt' have made it without my aunts insight that day. I would for sure have regretted it in later days." </em></p><p></p><p>In our case, sadly, I was given only a few minutes and had to change the reservations, plus get in the car to make it to the place myself</p><p></p><p>If husband and I didn't get there in time, we would have lost our deposit.</p><p></p><p>One thing I do REALLY wish is that she had called me much earlier in the day so that we could have talked through it all and perhaps she would have re-considered or I could have asked someone else in their place. This was all done very last minute. I do not know the timing of it all on her end...but do know she called me 30 mins. before we were to leave our area to get to the restaurant.</p><p></p><p>She seems kinda comfortable giving up things/opportunities due to her adult kids and this was a particularly noticeable 'cause there were no emergencies that evening. But I totally "get" the toll and the emotional drain that can occur when our children and adult children continue to make poor decisions.</p><p></p><p>My guess...your insight is MUCH better than my friend's....and thank goodness for this. </p><p></p><p>It's doubly tragic when this toll causes additional and unnecessary repercussions and this with effort can be prevented .... as you described in your situation. You are AWESOME! Your aunt provided an "assist," by I assure you...you shot the goal!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 330887"] MM.. What a GREAT story. I am so sorry about your mother. Sad and it sooo reminds me of my difficult child and her antics. So glad your aunt spoke with- you and you found the strength to go out even though you had significant emotional pain to push through. Look what your wrote: "[I]Best gift she could have given me. [B]I dragged my pathetic tush to the shower, got ready, and went out.[/B] It was a [B]good choice[/B], [U][B]best I could have made.[/B][/U] The thing is, it was made for me, I wouldnt' have made it without my aunts insight that day. I would for sure have regretted it in later days." [/I] In our case, sadly, I was given only a few minutes and had to change the reservations, plus get in the car to make it to the place myself If husband and I didn't get there in time, we would have lost our deposit. One thing I do REALLY wish is that she had called me much earlier in the day so that we could have talked through it all and perhaps she would have re-considered or I could have asked someone else in their place. This was all done very last minute. I do not know the timing of it all on her end...but do know she called me 30 mins. before we were to leave our area to get to the restaurant. She seems kinda comfortable giving up things/opportunities due to her adult kids and this was a particularly noticeable 'cause there were no emergencies that evening. But I totally "get" the toll and the emotional drain that can occur when our children and adult children continue to make poor decisions. My guess...your insight is MUCH better than my friend's....and thank goodness for this. It's doubly tragic when this toll causes additional and unnecessary repercussions and this with effort can be prevented .... as you described in your situation. You are AWESOME! Your aunt provided an "assist," by I assure you...you shot the goal! [/QUOTE]
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