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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 593052" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Seems to be a similar situation. I'd do the same thing...try to get to the core of it, find out if it has happened a lot, and get the older boy help before it can escalate. He is a eight year old who did it to a two year old. Not the same as two ten year olds deciding to show each other their thingies. The age difference is worrying because clearly it was done against the other child's will. He has been in treatment and clearly his workers still think he may be a risk. There must be a reason for that.</p><p></p><p>The poster is doing the right thing, watching them together at all times. Other than that, since I don't know very much, I have no opinion whether or not he should be taken out of the home. Depends on why he is seen as a risk to "other children" (notice she did not just say the brother). Perhaps he hmself was abused and is acting out on others. I don't consider this hysteria. Not when a child of eight does this to a baby. Sorry, not buying it. This was against the other child's will and an eight year old is old enough to know it. There is a history here that we don't know yet.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps your perspective is different if this has happened to your own children? I don't know. I never see this kind of this as frivalous. Malika, most definitely an older child can bully a younger child into being sexually abused. It happens apparently more than you know. And often it is kids who were sexually abused who do it, which is different from them watching sexy movies and deciding to try it on toddler brother, which I also feel is not normal, but it is not usually the reason why this is done. I think you may take it more seriously if it happened to J. and you saw the trauma that the children feel. It is a lot like how you would feel if your, say, cousin went into your bedroom, held you down and did the same stuff to you...or if this happened to me. Only you are two years old. It is against your will and you feel helpless and that is what it's like when an eight year old outpowers his three or two year old sibling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 593052, member: 1550"] Seems to be a similar situation. I'd do the same thing...try to get to the core of it, find out if it has happened a lot, and get the older boy help before it can escalate. He is a eight year old who did it to a two year old. Not the same as two ten year olds deciding to show each other their thingies. The age difference is worrying because clearly it was done against the other child's will. He has been in treatment and clearly his workers still think he may be a risk. There must be a reason for that. The poster is doing the right thing, watching them together at all times. Other than that, since I don't know very much, I have no opinion whether or not he should be taken out of the home. Depends on why he is seen as a risk to "other children" (notice she did not just say the brother). Perhaps he hmself was abused and is acting out on others. I don't consider this hysteria. Not when a child of eight does this to a baby. Sorry, not buying it. This was against the other child's will and an eight year old is old enough to know it. There is a history here that we don't know yet. Perhaps your perspective is different if this has happened to your own children? I don't know. I never see this kind of this as frivalous. Malika, most definitely an older child can bully a younger child into being sexually abused. It happens apparently more than you know. And often it is kids who were sexually abused who do it, which is different from them watching sexy movies and deciding to try it on toddler brother, which I also feel is not normal, but it is not usually the reason why this is done. I think you may take it more seriously if it happened to J. and you saw the trauma that the children feel. It is a lot like how you would feel if your, say, cousin went into your bedroom, held you down and did the same stuff to you...or if this happened to me. Only you are two years old. It is against your will and you feel helpless and that is what it's like when an eight year old outpowers his three or two year old sibling. [/QUOTE]
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