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<blockquote data-quote="tryagain" data-source="post: 609387" data-attributes="member: 14865"><p>I am so sorry about this. My 20 year old difficult child has done some of those things to us, too. As I was reading your post, I thought "bet she's bipolar" bc it sounded like our bipolar difficult child...and sure enough...I know how hard it is to not help them. You probably are like me, tenderhearted and remembering the sweet little girl you once had before she got ill...and ALWAYS hoping that THIS TIME WILL BE DIFFERENT...only to realize that yet again, no change has happened and the manipulation just continues. I constantly remind myself of the following things and maybe it will help you: We are AWESOME and loving parents who gave this child a wonderful life. She is ILL with a cruel disease. It makes her manipulative and mean. We do not deserve this. We deserve happiness and if we keep enabling her, we will just keep getting hurt. So we have detached, not 100%, but enough to keep her from making us miserable. LET GO, OR BE DRAGGED." Those are my mantras. We pay for her medications and health needs, car insurance, and phone. That's it. She has to leech off someone else for the rest...SHE is making choices, good and bad, and we cannot do one thing about it. So please let us know what happens. There is no easy answer, and every difficult child is different...Stay strong. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryagain, post: 609387, member: 14865"] I am so sorry about this. My 20 year old difficult child has done some of those things to us, too. As I was reading your post, I thought "bet she's bipolar" bc it sounded like our bipolar difficult child...and sure enough...I know how hard it is to not help them. You probably are like me, tenderhearted and remembering the sweet little girl you once had before she got ill...and ALWAYS hoping that THIS TIME WILL BE DIFFERENT...only to realize that yet again, no change has happened and the manipulation just continues. I constantly remind myself of the following things and maybe it will help you: We are AWESOME and loving parents who gave this child a wonderful life. She is ILL with a cruel disease. It makes her manipulative and mean. We do not deserve this. We deserve happiness and if we keep enabling her, we will just keep getting hurt. So we have detached, not 100%, but enough to keep her from making us miserable. LET GO, OR BE DRAGGED." Those are my mantras. We pay for her medications and health needs, car insurance, and phone. That's it. She has to leech off someone else for the rest...SHE is making choices, good and bad, and we cannot do one thing about it. So please let us know what happens. There is no easy answer, and every difficult child is different...Stay strong. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! [/QUOTE]
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