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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 616995" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If she can keep a job, you aren't helping her by letting her live at home, abuse you, and not work.</p><p>I never had the money to rent my difficult child a room. She was lucky shse found a place to live because I never paid for her lodgings. She got her life together AFTER she left. She has no right to demand anything of you. It is YOUR house.She is a guest.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion you need to enjoy your life in peace. You may want to pick up the book "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beatty and and read the link on the top of the page about detachment.</p><p></p><p>Until then, I would not even talk to her when she gets verbally aggressive. Calmly tell you her will talk to her when she is ready to quietly listen without yelling. Her verbal engagement is a way to control you, make you feel guilty, and do her bidding. If you won't engage her, you gain some power. Trust me, she knows darn well why her sister was treated differently. She would have gotten the same treatment if she followed the rules like Sis. This never needs to be discussed since she is well aware of the why of this. </p><p></p><p>You badly need to find a way to have a good life without worrying too much about your self-destructive daughter. You deserve a good life, and she does too, but she has to make herself have a good life. Even if you pay for a rental, she very well may just leave it and go elsewhere.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 616995, member: 1550"] If she can keep a job, you aren't helping her by letting her live at home, abuse you, and not work. I never had the money to rent my difficult child a room. She was lucky shse found a place to live because I never paid for her lodgings. She got her life together AFTER she left. She has no right to demand anything of you. It is YOUR house.She is a guest. in my opinion you need to enjoy your life in peace. You may want to pick up the book "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beatty and and read the link on the top of the page about detachment. Until then, I would not even talk to her when she gets verbally aggressive. Calmly tell you her will talk to her when she is ready to quietly listen without yelling. Her verbal engagement is a way to control you, make you feel guilty, and do her bidding. If you won't engage her, you gain some power. Trust me, she knows darn well why her sister was treated differently. She would have gotten the same treatment if she followed the rules like Sis. This never needs to be discussed since she is well aware of the why of this. You badly need to find a way to have a good life without worrying too much about your self-destructive daughter. You deserve a good life, and she does too, but she has to make herself have a good life. Even if you pay for a rental, she very well may just leave it and go elsewhere. Hugs and take care. [/QUOTE]
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