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Advice on marrying a dad with-child in group home
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<blockquote data-quote="Running_for_the_shelter" data-source="post: 390209" data-attributes="member: 2960"><p>After investing five years into a relationship, people are often very reluctant to walk away from it and will tolerate behaviors and demands that they would never consider had they been presented at the beginning of the relationship. [The frog-in-the-boiling-water analogy, if you're familiar with it.] Clearly, this isn't how you want to live your life -- and I doubt you really thought this group would come up with enough reasons to quell your doubts and let you have the clear conscience you want. Here are my thought (since you asked us!): Five years is a long time to invest, but if you want to be married, I would suggest you find someone whose idea of marriage is more like your own. If you really want to be with this man, then give up the marriage idea -- he doesn't really want it to happen. The red flags all over are telling you there is something you don't know about and that he doesn't want you to know about. Although we can speculate all day, in the end, you don't have a basis for a healthy marriage. Walk calmly to the nearest exit and in a year from now, you will not regret it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Running_for_the_shelter, post: 390209, member: 2960"] After investing five years into a relationship, people are often very reluctant to walk away from it and will tolerate behaviors and demands that they would never consider had they been presented at the beginning of the relationship. [The frog-in-the-boiling-water analogy, if you're familiar with it.] Clearly, this isn't how you want to live your life -- and I doubt you really thought this group would come up with enough reasons to quell your doubts and let you have the clear conscience you want. Here are my thought (since you asked us!): Five years is a long time to invest, but if you want to be married, I would suggest you find someone whose idea of marriage is more like your own. If you really want to be with this man, then give up the marriage idea -- he doesn't really want it to happen. The red flags all over are telling you there is something you don't know about and that he doesn't want you to know about. Although we can speculate all day, in the end, you don't have a basis for a healthy marriage. Walk calmly to the nearest exit and in a year from now, you will not regret it. [/QUOTE]
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