Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Good morning.
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easy child 1 has opened up and is talking more about bio-father showing up. Asking some questions, etc. Things seem to be ok, tho.
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However, this man is very clearly accepting no responsibility for his decision to be absent. He told a friend of my mom's that he was afraid of my father, which is why he hadn't "come forward" sooner (my dad is dead now). He has told my aunt that he moved away, so never knew I was pregnant. He has told easy child that I hid easy child from him, and never told him I was pregnant. Combined with the fact that he has gone to great lengths to contact everyone BUT me....
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And this is really bugging me because its making a game of "he said/she said" with easy child, and I won't play that. easy child was hesitant to tell me that bio-father had contacted him because he beleived the story that I had tried to hide him from bio father (why wouldn't he? What else did he have to go from?). And its making him hesitant to ask other questions - so far, he is, but he's hesitant. And it makes me hesitant to answer them, now that I know what I'm saying is contradicting what this guy is telling him...
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I thought about calling bio-father, but that doesn't seem like a good idea. I've also thought about calling those who he has contacted to get info about us...
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Or maybe I just leave it alone? I just hate answering easy child's questions in a way that contradicts what this man told him...its just not right that easy child be put in that position. I did a lot of things wrong in that picture, but I did not hide easy child from that man. I told bio-father I was pregnant. Cost me about $12 in change to call him long distance from a payphone to do it.
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My mother is also being very accepting of the situation. Which is all well and good, but dangit, I'm sick of being the only bad guy.
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And not for nothing, this guy didn't want to tell his wife and kids about easy child until he confirmed thru a DNA test that he was the father - a DNA test that he wasn't going to pay for....
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easy child 1 has opened up and is talking more about bio-father showing up. Asking some questions, etc. Things seem to be ok, tho.
***
However, this man is very clearly accepting no responsibility for his decision to be absent. He told a friend of my mom's that he was afraid of my father, which is why he hadn't "come forward" sooner (my dad is dead now). He has told my aunt that he moved away, so never knew I was pregnant. He has told easy child that I hid easy child from him, and never told him I was pregnant. Combined with the fact that he has gone to great lengths to contact everyone BUT me....
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And this is really bugging me because its making a game of "he said/she said" with easy child, and I won't play that. easy child was hesitant to tell me that bio-father had contacted him because he beleived the story that I had tried to hide him from bio father (why wouldn't he? What else did he have to go from?). And its making him hesitant to ask other questions - so far, he is, but he's hesitant. And it makes me hesitant to answer them, now that I know what I'm saying is contradicting what this guy is telling him...
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I thought about calling bio-father, but that doesn't seem like a good idea. I've also thought about calling those who he has contacted to get info about us...
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Or maybe I just leave it alone? I just hate answering easy child's questions in a way that contradicts what this man told him...its just not right that easy child be put in that position. I did a lot of things wrong in that picture, but I did not hide easy child from that man. I told bio-father I was pregnant. Cost me about $12 in change to call him long distance from a payphone to do it.
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My mother is also being very accepting of the situation. Which is all well and good, but dangit, I'm sick of being the only bad guy.
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And not for nothing, this guy didn't want to tell his wife and kids about easy child until he confirmed thru a DNA test that he was the father - a DNA test that he wasn't going to pay for....
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