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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 443421" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I think I would leave a card taped to the door with her name on it. Put in writing what you told her the other day. "Take care of yourself and don't try contacting us until you can understand what your life decisions has done to our family."</p><p></p><p>I would think it would be harder to get her to leave this next time. She has just spent time with mother in law and is not heading in any direction this time that will find someone to help her get back into your life. Time for her to push harder and longer. So, being the chicken I am with direct confrontation when I don't know how to end the conversation and ask the other person to leave, I would kind of compromise by giving the words I would want to say in a written format.</p><p></p><p>Somehow include in the note the good qualities you use to see in her before she took this road in life. End with the strong assurance that you really hope she can find the strength to get on a healthier road but until that time, you do not want to interfere in her getting healthier by opening the door to a broken relationship. Kind of like your own mini intervention attempt.</p><p></p><p>And it goes without saying, DO NOT ANSWER YOUR DOOR! Can you park your car down the street and go through a back yard (and neighbor's back yard if you are friends with them) to come and go without being seen in the event she decide to park outside your house waiting for you to show up?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 443421, member: 5096"] I think I would leave a card taped to the door with her name on it. Put in writing what you told her the other day. "Take care of yourself and don't try contacting us until you can understand what your life decisions has done to our family." I would think it would be harder to get her to leave this next time. She has just spent time with mother in law and is not heading in any direction this time that will find someone to help her get back into your life. Time for her to push harder and longer. So, being the chicken I am with direct confrontation when I don't know how to end the conversation and ask the other person to leave, I would kind of compromise by giving the words I would want to say in a written format. Somehow include in the note the good qualities you use to see in her before she took this road in life. End with the strong assurance that you really hope she can find the strength to get on a healthier road but until that time, you do not want to interfere in her getting healthier by opening the door to a broken relationship. Kind of like your own mini intervention attempt. And it goes without saying, DO NOT ANSWER YOUR DOOR! Can you park your car down the street and go through a back yard (and neighbor's back yard if you are friends with them) to come and go without being seen in the event she decide to park outside your house waiting for you to show up? [/QUOTE]
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