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Advice - should we call the cops and report an assault at school?
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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 427323" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>Thanks everyone. You all pretty much covered everything that's gone through my head in the past 7 hours.</p><p></p><p>I am sleeping on it and will talk with the principal in the morning. My guess is that there will be serious consequences for this kid but it's a little fuzzy since it was on school grounds but after school hours.</p><p></p><p>I am concerned about retaliation at school - both directions. My difficult child is NOT level-headed ... talk about an oxymoron, a level-headed difficult child... and the school Special Education person sitting there telling him it's dangerous was not reassuring.</p><p></p><p>Just what I needed right now. Of course. I'm supposed to have several pieces ready for a gallery to hang for a show starting this weekend. I have to have them to the gallery tomorrow night and the past several days have been one interruption and delay after another. I was at the framers getting some mats cut when they called me to come to school. I do not like looking like a flake but there is no way I am going to be able to deal with this tomorrow and still get all the framing done by tomorrow night.</p><p></p><p>Is there a smiley that's pulling her hair out?? If not, we need one of those.</p><p></p><p>I have decided that I am inclined to call the police. It is not an option for difficult child to change schools. I only convinced the stupid school district to place him in the ED class there 6 weeks ago. And he's doing great. He stayed after school today for the first time in years because he finally has a friend!!!</p><p></p><p>My son says he's seen this kid choke someone before - just not to the point that they passed out like he did.</p><p></p><p>You are right pepperidge - my son could have been seriously injured. My gut reaction when my son told me he had been choked to unconsciousness? "Have you called an ambulance?" I am not willing to find out the hard way that he will do it again to my kid - or to anyone else's.</p><p></p><p>I realize the school people didn't seem to be too excited but when we got to ER and told them he had been choked to the point of unconsciousness we were sent to the head of the line. Fastest ER trip I have ever had with that kid. We were only there for 90 minutes. They took him back, checked him out, observed him for a little while and then sent us home with lots of warnings. Including one to him not to do this to get high - which earned them a look of disgust and a "why would anyone do something that stupid??" comment from difficult child 2.</p><p></p><p>But the biggest reason from my perspective to call the cops on this kid? Because our juvenile justice program is turning itself inside out to help kids instead of just incarcerate them. There are multiple diversion programs including the one we just started. Clearly this kid needs help. If an adult had done this - we would not even be discussing whether to call the cops. These are high school kids - kids yes but spitting distance to being adults.</p><p></p><p>We could not get the kind of help we need until we were in the juvenile justice system here. Maybe this other family is the same and will benefit from intervention. I don't know that but between my knowledge about the system here and the fact that I really do not want this kid walking around choking people I am coming down on the side of calling the cops.</p><p></p><p>I'll see what happens in the morning. I understand privacy but I don't think it's a violation of privacy if I ask the principal if the other kid is at school and if so what she plans to do to make sure there is no retaliation or further violence if my kid comes to school too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 427323, member: 11920"] Thanks everyone. You all pretty much covered everything that's gone through my head in the past 7 hours. I am sleeping on it and will talk with the principal in the morning. My guess is that there will be serious consequences for this kid but it's a little fuzzy since it was on school grounds but after school hours. I am concerned about retaliation at school - both directions. My difficult child is NOT level-headed ... talk about an oxymoron, a level-headed difficult child... and the school Special Education person sitting there telling him it's dangerous was not reassuring. Just what I needed right now. Of course. I'm supposed to have several pieces ready for a gallery to hang for a show starting this weekend. I have to have them to the gallery tomorrow night and the past several days have been one interruption and delay after another. I was at the framers getting some mats cut when they called me to come to school. I do not like looking like a flake but there is no way I am going to be able to deal with this tomorrow and still get all the framing done by tomorrow night. Is there a smiley that's pulling her hair out?? If not, we need one of those. I have decided that I am inclined to call the police. It is not an option for difficult child to change schools. I only convinced the stupid school district to place him in the ED class there 6 weeks ago. And he's doing great. He stayed after school today for the first time in years because he finally has a friend!!! My son says he's seen this kid choke someone before - just not to the point that they passed out like he did. You are right pepperidge - my son could have been seriously injured. My gut reaction when my son told me he had been choked to unconsciousness? "Have you called an ambulance?" I am not willing to find out the hard way that he will do it again to my kid - or to anyone else's. I realize the school people didn't seem to be too excited but when we got to ER and told them he had been choked to the point of unconsciousness we were sent to the head of the line. Fastest ER trip I have ever had with that kid. We were only there for 90 minutes. They took him back, checked him out, observed him for a little while and then sent us home with lots of warnings. Including one to him not to do this to get high - which earned them a look of disgust and a "why would anyone do something that stupid??" comment from difficult child 2. But the biggest reason from my perspective to call the cops on this kid? Because our juvenile justice program is turning itself inside out to help kids instead of just incarcerate them. There are multiple diversion programs including the one we just started. Clearly this kid needs help. If an adult had done this - we would not even be discussing whether to call the cops. These are high school kids - kids yes but spitting distance to being adults. We could not get the kind of help we need until we were in the juvenile justice system here. Maybe this other family is the same and will benefit from intervention. I don't know that but between my knowledge about the system here and the fact that I really do not want this kid walking around choking people I am coming down on the side of calling the cops. I'll see what happens in the morning. I understand privacy but I don't think it's a violation of privacy if I ask the principal if the other kid is at school and if so what she plans to do to make sure there is no retaliation or further violence if my kid comes to school too. [/QUOTE]
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