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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 697703" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>Actually, attachment disorder of the severity of which SWOT and the OP speak is very rare. Much more common is what I have: "insecure attachment". It's caused by incomplete bonding with a caregiver during early life.</p><p></p><p>In my case, it's from spending 6 weeks in NICU after birth. The hospital in which I was born in 1960 was quite modern in its thinking for the time and had "baby cuddlers": retired men and women who spend time holding and cuddling the babies, singing to them, etc.</p><p></p><p>I wasn't born with any trouble attaching. I became quite attached to the elderly gentleman who spent hours cuddling me and singing me lullabies. My mother was only allowed to see me for an hour 2x daily. I spent more time by far with the volunteer caregiver.</p><p></p><p>I was quite upset when the time came for me to go home and I had to leave my old man and I didn't want my parents to touch me. I did get used to them gradually and attach to them, but apparently not as closely as is normal. In addition, I was always afraid of losing them, like I had lost "my" caregiver in the hospital.</p><p></p><p>The various types of insecure attachment have different causes and in most cases can be helped with therapy.</p><p></p><p>I feel terrible about it now. Here were my parents with this baby they'd tried for years to have. Baby is a premie and has to stay in NICU until she gains some weight and is breathing better. Baby hates mommy and daddy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 697703, member: 1963"] Actually, attachment disorder of the severity of which SWOT and the OP speak is very rare. Much more common is what I have: "insecure attachment". It's caused by incomplete bonding with a caregiver during early life. In my case, it's from spending 6 weeks in NICU after birth. The hospital in which I was born in 1960 was quite modern in its thinking for the time and had "baby cuddlers": retired men and women who spend time holding and cuddling the babies, singing to them, etc. I wasn't born with any trouble attaching. I became quite attached to the elderly gentleman who spent hours cuddling me and singing me lullabies. My mother was only allowed to see me for an hour 2x daily. I spent more time by far with the volunteer caregiver. I was quite upset when the time came for me to go home and I had to leave my old man and I didn't want my parents to touch me. I did get used to them gradually and attach to them, but apparently not as closely as is normal. In addition, I was always afraid of losing them, like I had lost "my" caregiver in the hospital. The various types of insecure attachment have different causes and in most cases can be helped with therapy. I feel terrible about it now. Here were my parents with this baby they'd tried for years to have. Baby is a premie and has to stay in NICU until she gains some weight and is breathing better. Baby hates mommy and daddy. [/QUOTE]
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