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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 160696" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>First of all, if the rule is no phone if behind on homework, then yes, she should go with-o a phone however long it takes her to get caught up.</p><p> </p><p>How is she in Jr honor society if she is so behind and doesn't get credit even if he turns stuff in?? Are you SURE this is what she wanted a ride to??</p><p> </p><p>If you told her nothing new until/unless she takes care of the clothes in her room, then buying a "prom" dress will tell her you don't mean what you say and she can get away with what she wants.</p><p> </p><p>My personal view is that proms are for jr/sr year, the rest are dances (unless your date is a jr/sr). How is a prom to be special if there is one every year?? How will she value the expensive prom dress and accessories if she doesn't even ahve to do the BASICS to get them?? IF you let her go, then she should buy the dress out of her own money, in my opinion.</p><p> </p><p>I realize kids go through BIG changes around this time, part of growing up and getting ready to move out on your own (or so one doctor told us), but I would still wonder about drugs. Somewhere we had a checklist of things that might mean drug use. Unfortunately, at her age she is a major target for drug dealers and for peers pushing drugs and alcohol.</p><p> </p><p>I know it is hard to think about, but you really should think about it. If for no other reason than to be able to try to get her into help at an early age. </p><p> </p><p>I know you are very sad and hurt. I am sure that it must stink. But you must stick to what you say or it will ONLY get worse, AND she will grow up with-o the tools she needs to be an independent adult.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs, and you have my support no matter what you do!!</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p><p> </p><p>ps. What is the consequence for not caring for the cat??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 160696, member: 1233"] First of all, if the rule is no phone if behind on homework, then yes, she should go with-o a phone however long it takes her to get caught up. How is she in Jr honor society if she is so behind and doesn't get credit even if he turns stuff in?? Are you SURE this is what she wanted a ride to?? If you told her nothing new until/unless she takes care of the clothes in her room, then buying a "prom" dress will tell her you don't mean what you say and she can get away with what she wants. My personal view is that proms are for jr/sr year, the rest are dances (unless your date is a jr/sr). How is a prom to be special if there is one every year?? How will she value the expensive prom dress and accessories if she doesn't even ahve to do the BASICS to get them?? IF you let her go, then she should buy the dress out of her own money, in my opinion. I realize kids go through BIG changes around this time, part of growing up and getting ready to move out on your own (or so one doctor told us), but I would still wonder about drugs. Somewhere we had a checklist of things that might mean drug use. Unfortunately, at her age she is a major target for drug dealers and for peers pushing drugs and alcohol. I know it is hard to think about, but you really should think about it. If for no other reason than to be able to try to get her into help at an early age. I know you are very sad and hurt. I am sure that it must stink. But you must stick to what you say or it will ONLY get worse, AND she will grow up with-o the tools she needs to be an independent adult. Hugs, and you have my support no matter what you do!! Susie ps. What is the consequence for not caring for the cat?? [/QUOTE]
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