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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 695137" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Oy, what a day...</p><p></p><p></p><p>SS, I am glad to hear that your parents might be starting to see the light but sorry that the fallout might be headed your way.</p><p></p><p>I know just what you mean about finding another enabler. Here is what happened today.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child is "stranded" (his word, not ours) in a small town in the Midwest.</p><p></p><p>After a morning and most of an afternoon of mean and hateful remarks, guilt trips, pity plays and name-calling (all of which I ignored), I got an apology of sorts.</p><p></p><p>Apparently some kind soul in this small town has given him the money for a bus ticket to where he claims he wants to go.</p><p></p><p>Unbelievable.</p><p></p><p>If we taught him nothing else, we taught him good manners. He presents himself well and is very convincing. I have seen this sort of thing before. Who am I kidding? I have DONE this kind of thing before.</p><p></p><p>I am sure they meant well, but I am not sure it is really helping.</p><p></p><p>In fact, I know it is not really helping, because tonight on FB he posted that someone had given him money for a bus ticket and he had enough of his own money to get high, and the drugs were kicking in just in time for departure.</p><p></p><p>This is the kind of thing that makes me not want to have any contact with him for a really, really long time.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Leafy, with all you have going on today, you are posting here and helping others</p><p></p><p>Thank you, Leafy. Today I doubt that the examples we set even register on the radar of these difficult ones, but I have faith that one day they will. In the meantime, we set our own example, for our own peace of mind.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Ready, I really don't think he was robbed. When he was angry at me for being "stranded" he told me he was going to pull a "McCandless" and I would never know whether he was dead or alive. Chris McCandless was a young man who burned his money and his ID and hit the road (and ultimately starved to death in Alaska). My guess is, Difficult Child threw his wallet and Obama phone out in a fit of pique, then realized that was a really stupid thing to do and wanted us to fix it. The $20 he told the deputy he earned from working odd jobs. Perhaps that is true. Apparently he had even more money hidden somewhere (see above).</p><p></p><p>And I agree, in the midst of their crazy-making, sometimes we can only make our own truth.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Jabber, I did verify that the number was legit. And you are right about the phone. Apparently he has a 2nd phone with no service, and that is how he is communicating thru FB.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for this, Ready.</p><p></p><p></p><p>And this, COM. How gut-wrenching for both of you.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry for this too, COM. Thank you for your kind words.</p><p></p><p>RN, I think I am at this point too. husband is not. We have much to discuss. When Difficult Child shows up at the door, there is only one door! We must come to an agreement on how to handle him.</p><p></p><p>Thank you again for your thoughtful responses.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 695137, member: 17720"] Oy, what a day... SS, I am glad to hear that your parents might be starting to see the light but sorry that the fallout might be headed your way. I know just what you mean about finding another enabler. Here is what happened today. Difficult Child is "stranded" (his word, not ours) in a small town in the Midwest. After a morning and most of an afternoon of mean and hateful remarks, guilt trips, pity plays and name-calling (all of which I ignored), I got an apology of sorts. Apparently some kind soul in this small town has given him the money for a bus ticket to where he claims he wants to go. Unbelievable. If we taught him nothing else, we taught him good manners. He presents himself well and is very convincing. I have seen this sort of thing before. Who am I kidding? I have DONE this kind of thing before. I am sure they meant well, but I am not sure it is really helping. In fact, I know it is not really helping, because tonight on FB he posted that someone had given him money for a bus ticket and he had enough of his own money to get high, and the drugs were kicking in just in time for departure. This is the kind of thing that makes me not want to have any contact with him for a really, really long time. Leafy, with all you have going on today, you are posting here and helping others Thank you, Leafy. Today I doubt that the examples we set even register on the radar of these difficult ones, but I have faith that one day they will. In the meantime, we set our own example, for our own peace of mind. Ready, I really don't think he was robbed. When he was angry at me for being "stranded" he told me he was going to pull a "McCandless" and I would never know whether he was dead or alive. Chris McCandless was a young man who burned his money and his ID and hit the road (and ultimately starved to death in Alaska). My guess is, Difficult Child threw his wallet and Obama phone out in a fit of pique, then realized that was a really stupid thing to do and wanted us to fix it. The $20 he told the deputy he earned from working odd jobs. Perhaps that is true. Apparently he had even more money hidden somewhere (see above). And I agree, in the midst of their crazy-making, sometimes we can only make our own truth. Jabber, I did verify that the number was legit. And you are right about the phone. Apparently he has a 2nd phone with no service, and that is how he is communicating thru FB. I am so sorry for this, Ready. And this, COM. How gut-wrenching for both of you. I am sorry for this too, COM. Thank you for your kind words. RN, I think I am at this point too. husband is not. We have much to discuss. When Difficult Child shows up at the door, there is only one door! We must come to an agreement on how to handle him. Thank you again for your thoughtful responses. [/QUOTE]
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