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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 699919" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I'm sorry, RN. I know what it's like to be in the barrel like you are right now. It's awful.</p><p></p><p>One thing I wish I could have back is all the hours I have spent worrying that he was cold/hungry/in the hospital and unconscious/whatever horribles my mind could conjure. There are plenty of reasons to worry, but:</p><p>(1) Most of it is in my imagination, because my son is not only very resilient, but very creative in finding ways to get what he wants.</p><p>(2) My worry does not do one bit of good.</p><p></p><p>Take the past week as an example. We had not heard from him in about 10 days, then received a message that he had blown a drug test, thus losing his job; had gotten his money, backpack, and phone stolen; and had gotten kicked out of the shelter, all with winter on the horizon. How awful, right?</p><p></p><p>But geez, we've just heard it all so many times before, I just get numb to it after awhile.</p><p></p><p>So I didn't get worked up this time, just messaged him some generic "mom" type stuff...sounds awful, hope you work it out, etc. I even forgot to tell hubs about it until the next day.</p><p></p><p>Part of me feels so bad about reacting this way. How did this become the new normal?</p><p></p><p>Yesterday he messaged me. He talked the shelter into another 10 days' stay, bought a bus ticket, and is leaving at the end of the month to go on an 800-mile hike, through a very remote section of the Southwest.</p><p></p><p>So...either he bought a bus ticket with no money and is going on a hike through the desert with no phone, no equipment, and no backpack (not likely), OR he made up the whole story. He probably doesn't even remember what he told me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 699919, member: 17720"] I'm sorry, RN. I know what it's like to be in the barrel like you are right now. It's awful. One thing I wish I could have back is all the hours I have spent worrying that he was cold/hungry/in the hospital and unconscious/whatever horribles my mind could conjure. There are plenty of reasons to worry, but: (1) Most of it is in my imagination, because my son is not only very resilient, but very creative in finding ways to get what he wants. (2) My worry does not do one bit of good. Take the past week as an example. We had not heard from him in about 10 days, then received a message that he had blown a drug test, thus losing his job; had gotten his money, backpack, and phone stolen; and had gotten kicked out of the shelter, all with winter on the horizon. How awful, right? But geez, we've just heard it all so many times before, I just get numb to it after awhile. So I didn't get worked up this time, just messaged him some generic "mom" type stuff...sounds awful, hope you work it out, etc. I even forgot to tell hubs about it until the next day. Part of me feels so bad about reacting this way. How did this become the new normal? Yesterday he messaged me. He talked the shelter into another 10 days' stay, bought a bus ticket, and is leaving at the end of the month to go on an 800-mile hike, through a very remote section of the Southwest. So...either he bought a bus ticket with no money and is going on a hike through the desert with no phone, no equipment, and no backpack (not likely), OR he made up the whole story. He probably doesn't even remember what he told me. [/QUOTE]
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