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After months of silence, email from difficult child's girlfriend arrives today
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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 632295" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>It is a fairly long email, saying gfg33 is ashamed and misses his parents, wants to reach out to us, but is afraid of rejection and judgement. Says he moved back to this state in April and is with her, working full time at a motel front desk and going to school this fall to study to be a paralegal.</p><p></p><p> Mostly nice, but a bit judging here and there. husband and I are speechless. Our suspicion is that he wants to ask for money or co-sign for a loan or something.... If past behavior is the best indicator of future performance.....(For those of you who do not know the story, last we heard from gfg33, he was incredibly hateful to us because we would not put him up in a hotel for a few months (after girlfriend moved out-of-state because he was not working and spent his days smoking spice).</p><p>I'll post just a few snippets below so you might pick up on the timbre:</p><p></p><p><strong>(Gfg33) and I are doing really well. We are stronger and happier than we’ve ever been. He has grown so much in the last 6 months, into the best version of himself. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We are financially stable and ridiculously happy.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>The only thing missing is you. His family.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I don’t know really what to say, and that’s why I haven’t emailed you sooner. I’ve thought about it multiple times, but stopped because I felt there was no point in saying anything, that it wasn’t my place, etc. I won’t pretend I can even begin to try to fix the problems that are going on, but I know that this silent stalemate will certainly not lead to positive results. The relationship can’t heal unless the communication is there. I guess I mainly am writing you to see if you have any desire to have (gfg33) and me in your life. If you do, maybe we can all think together of a way to repair what has been going on these last few months.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p>****************************************************************************************************************</p><p>How should we reply? I won't respond today, but maybe something along the lines of, <em>Thank you for your email with updates. Glad to hear you are doing well. If gfg33 finds enough love in his heart for us, we feel certain he will find a way to let us know. Thanks again. </em></p><p><em>------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------</em></p><p>Of course we love gfg33, and we don't want to ignore this email totally, but we are so guarded after years of turmoil. We guess it is too soon to mention there will be no $$? Reminder: we feel almost certain he has antisocial behavior disorder. husband is suspicious gfg33 is wanting help with tuition.</p><p></p><p>sighs.......</p><p></p><p>Thanks so much,</p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 632295, member: 17635"] It is a fairly long email, saying gfg33 is ashamed and misses his parents, wants to reach out to us, but is afraid of rejection and judgement. Says he moved back to this state in April and is with her, working full time at a motel front desk and going to school this fall to study to be a paralegal. Mostly nice, but a bit judging here and there. husband and I are speechless. Our suspicion is that he wants to ask for money or co-sign for a loan or something.... If past behavior is the best indicator of future performance.....(For those of you who do not know the story, last we heard from gfg33, he was incredibly hateful to us because we would not put him up in a hotel for a few months (after girlfriend moved out-of-state because he was not working and spent his days smoking spice). I'll post just a few snippets below so you might pick up on the timbre: [B](Gfg33) and I are doing really well. We are stronger and happier than we’ve ever been. He has grown so much in the last 6 months, into the best version of himself. [/B] [B] We are financially stable and ridiculously happy. The only thing missing is you. His family. I don’t know really what to say, and that’s why I haven’t emailed you sooner. I’ve thought about it multiple times, but stopped because I felt there was no point in saying anything, that it wasn’t my place, etc. I won’t pretend I can even begin to try to fix the problems that are going on, but I know that this silent stalemate will certainly not lead to positive results. The relationship can’t heal unless the communication is there. I guess I mainly am writing you to see if you have any desire to have (gfg33) and me in your life. If you do, maybe we can all think together of a way to repair what has been going on these last few months. [/B] **************************************************************************************************************** How should we reply? I won't respond today, but maybe something along the lines of, [I]Thank you for your email with updates. Glad to hear you are doing well. If gfg33 finds enough love in his heart for us, we feel certain he will find a way to let us know. Thanks again. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------[/I] Of course we love gfg33, and we don't want to ignore this email totally, but we are so guarded after years of turmoil. We guess it is too soon to mention there will be no $$? Reminder: we feel almost certain he has antisocial behavior disorder. husband is suspicious gfg33 is wanting help with tuition. sighs....... Thanks so much, SS [/QUOTE]
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