After much consideration & planning

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Nov 21, 2011.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    both kt & wm are heading down to my dad's for t'giving.

    As no professional can get their act together when it comes to some kind of visitation between the tweedles I'm taking this on myself. Why .... you may ask. The tweedles weren't given the chance to be siblings. I've been pushing regular visits for at least 3 years now.

    It's not come into fruition. kt & wm are just too close to 18 to be believed. I need them to learn to be brother & sister before they can get together outside of protective parameters in place.

    My niece & almost nephew & I are caravaning down. wm will ride with them....kt will be riding with me. wm will stay at my sister's house while kt & I stay with Dad. In the meantime, there will be many people who can & will intervene if necessary.

    It's now or never. It may be never after this weekend or I may be pleasantly surprised. Who knows?
  2. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    Wow- you are a brave woman and a very caring warrior mom! I hope all of you have a very pleasant day and there are no crisis- maybe a little difficult child moment or two, but nothing big. You deserve to have a nice day with all your family together.
  3. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Ditto Klmno. Fingers crossed! I hope this doesn't turn out to be too big for you all.
  4. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip


    Linda, I think you have a good plan (including safety) in place.

    I hope, for their sake, it works out... For yours, too!
  5. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    Good for you Linda. You seem to have given it a lot of thought and have put all the safeties into place that you can. Enjoy the family time. You deserve it.
  6. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Once again your tenacity astounds me. Fingers crossed that it is a happy holiday for all. Hugs. DDD
  7. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    I will be sending prayers and rattling beads that all goes well....
  8. Liahona

    Liahona Guest

    Wow, you've got a great family to help you with this! I'm also hoping all goes well.
  9. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Prayers and beads rattled that this holiday leaves you thankful. :)
  10. Rabbit

    Rabbit Member

    Sending prayer up and hugs! hoping for the best for you and the Tweedles. Rabbit
  11. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    Good luck and a happy day! Here's hoping that all goes smoothly and this is the beginning of more holidays together in the future.
  12. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Praying it stay s stress free and they have a good time together. Let us know how it goes!
  13. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    I hate like heck that the teams let it go this long.

    You are a very strong and powerful woman, and your family is awesome to back you up on this. So much to be thankful for today. I hope that you will have even more to be thankful for at the end of the visit.

    Many hugs to you, and much bead-rattling going on here for your whole family.
  14. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Good for you, for giving it a try and for making sure all involved are safe.

    Hope it goes well
  15. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Wow, and good luck! Hopefully the time they have spent apart has grown their separate identities and their growth will push them to see each other differently than they did in the past.
  16. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    You first response was a whopper of an UH OH....WHAT is she thinking?

    But the more I read and the more I're right. Not only did they lose a big chunk of their childhood but they lost each other too. I hope the visit not only turns out great but leads to the best possible relationship for them.

    AND....I hope you have a good time with your family and children.....ALL AT THE SAME TIME! Happy Thanksgiving my friend. May you all enjoy your blessings this week....TOGETHER!
  17. Hopeless

    Hopeless ....Hopeful Now

    Wishing you all have a quiet, nice family get together.
  18. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Good for you Linda! I'll be rattling beads!
  19. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    What Stang said. And many hugs.
  20. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    I'll be praying and keeping body parts crossed.

    I hope you all can have a very nice family holiday with tons of laughter, lots of love, and no difficult child moments. Lord knows you all deserve it.