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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 679482" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>New Leaf, I expose myself routinely, and I get responses that pinch. Sometimes I feel shame.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I go too far on the PE threads, and I am checked. But other times, I go too far, and people recognize themselves in what I write, and they say so. That brings us closer. It builds trust and it builds community. The risk I have taken in that way builds me. I build my house, I make it stronger and surer. I know it better.</p><p></p><p>FOO has been my safe place. SA has been the safe place for others. PE, for others still. Each forum has its rules of engagement, kind of like the unspoken parameters of usage and each forum has its implicit goals.</p><p></p><p>We are deciding here in our posts, the rules of engagement, and negotiating the implicit goals. That is why this conversation is important and why I am taking it so seriously.</p><p></p><p>This is not about, in the main, how each of us feels. It is about what each of us using this Forum may become.</p><p></p><p>I am perfectly able to not participate here, if that is what I decide or others decide for me. What I do not want is that FOO become someplace that is not useful, in the way that it has been.</p><p></p><p>That FOO remain useful requires honesty and work and courage. All of this you show and have shown.</p><p></p><p>There have been times before when one of us has been hurt by others posts. Saying so has been a good thing. It has moved us farther and brought us closer. We have chosen to listen and respect the limit, or leave.</p><p></p><p>Not everybody is still here. Maybe there will be nobody left at all.</p><p></p><p>While I would be sad and feel a loss, it will still have been worth it. A million times over.</p><p></p><p>I would never have been who I am and where I am without having had this opportunity and possibility. Here on FOO. That is what is at stake here.</p><p></p><p>I am open to dialog further about this and any other thing. And I will accept, gracefully, I hope, where I am in error, so that I might grow clearer, more strong, more correct and more flexible.</p><p></p><p>I see dialog as useful in so many ways.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 679482, member: 18958"] New Leaf, I expose myself routinely, and I get responses that pinch. Sometimes I feel shame. Sometimes I go too far on the PE threads, and I am checked. But other times, I go too far, and people recognize themselves in what I write, and they say so. That brings us closer. It builds trust and it builds community. The risk I have taken in that way builds me. I build my house, I make it stronger and surer. I know it better. FOO has been my safe place. SA has been the safe place for others. PE, for others still. Each forum has its rules of engagement, kind of like the unspoken parameters of usage and each forum has its implicit goals. We are deciding here in our posts, the rules of engagement, and negotiating the implicit goals. That is why this conversation is important and why I am taking it so seriously. This is not about, in the main, how each of us feels. It is about what each of us using this Forum may become. I am perfectly able to not participate here, if that is what I decide or others decide for me. What I do not want is that FOO become someplace that is not useful, in the way that it has been. That FOO remain useful requires honesty and work and courage. All of this you show and have shown. There have been times before when one of us has been hurt by others posts. Saying so has been a good thing. It has moved us farther and brought us closer. We have chosen to listen and respect the limit, or leave. Not everybody is still here. Maybe there will be nobody left at all. While I would be sad and feel a loss, it will still have been worth it. A million times over. I would never have been who I am and where I am without having had this opportunity and possibility. Here on FOO. That is what is at stake here. I am open to dialog further about this and any other thing. And I will accept, gracefully, I hope, where I am in error, so that I might grow clearer, more strong, more correct and more flexible. I see dialog as useful in so many ways. COPA [/QUOTE]
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