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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 679487" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I have to get dressed to go to the doctor but I wanted to tell you Insane how helpful your post is to me. I will try to respond at length when I return to the house.But Insane, reacting is not the same as responding. Reacting keeps the power outside of yourself. Responding implies choice.</p><p></p><p>Each of our posts gives others the choice. When we are honest in what we post.</p><p>This is brilliant. And where we are sensitive is where we can work. And on FOO, we do. The cutting edge is where we have been cut. To be cut, hurts, but it becomes the cutting edge.</p><p></p><p>Looking at it from this way, how constructive is this conversation.</p><p></p><p>But we are talking about power here, and bullying. Each of us has been dis-empowered and bullied in their lives. Nobody here has the goal to misuse power or to bully the other. But to be powerful requires that we exercise our own power, and to learn to do so powerfully. That implies that power be expressed directly.</p><p></p><p>It is like the little child who behaves aggressively. That she does so from the perspective I have now is the most wonderful of things. That she be mean, not so good. But we learn to not be mean.</p><p></p><p>Nobody wants to be a punching bag in life. But say, we are punching bags. Do we really have any control over whether others keep punching us? Stop treating me like a punching bag, please. Pretty please.</p><p></p><p>No. But we can beef ourselves up. We can decide we want to be more assertive, which is our right. Which means we begin expressing ourselves powerfully and clearly. So that others know what we want, we know what we want and we go there. </p><p></p><p>When we arrive we know we can always leave. But we know our limits. And we know our needs. And we demand that both be respected. We demand that of ourselves. That is power.</p><p></p><p>Power does not require that we make anybody bad, or responsible for us. There is no good guy or bad guy. There are only powerful people with powerful voices.</p><p></p><p>How is that wrong? The sensitivity is still there. We take responsibility for it. It is our sensitivity. We take responsibility for it. We do not demand that others do so for us. </p><p></p><p>I am my own little flower. I will build a fence to protect me.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 679487, member: 18958"] I have to get dressed to go to the doctor but I wanted to tell you Insane how helpful your post is to me. I will try to respond at length when I return to the house.But Insane, reacting is not the same as responding. Reacting keeps the power outside of yourself. Responding implies choice. Each of our posts gives others the choice. When we are honest in what we post. This is brilliant. And where we are sensitive is where we can work. And on FOO, we do. The cutting edge is where we have been cut. To be cut, hurts, but it becomes the cutting edge. Looking at it from this way, how constructive is this conversation. But we are talking about power here, and bullying. Each of us has been dis-empowered and bullied in their lives. Nobody here has the goal to misuse power or to bully the other. But to be powerful requires that we exercise our own power, and to learn to do so powerfully. That implies that power be expressed directly. It is like the little child who behaves aggressively. That she does so from the perspective I have now is the most wonderful of things. That she be mean, not so good. But we learn to not be mean. Nobody wants to be a punching bag in life. But say, we are punching bags. Do we really have any control over whether others keep punching us? Stop treating me like a punching bag, please. Pretty please. No. But we can beef ourselves up. We can decide we want to be more assertive, which is our right. Which means we begin expressing ourselves powerfully and clearly. So that others know what we want, we know what we want and we go there. When we arrive we know we can always leave. But we know our limits. And we know our needs. And we demand that both be respected. We demand that of ourselves. That is power. Power does not require that we make anybody bad, or responsible for us. There is no good guy or bad guy. There are only powerful people with powerful voices. How is that wrong? The sensitivity is still there. We take responsibility for it. It is our sensitivity. We take responsibility for it. We do not demand that others do so for us. I am my own little flower. I will build a fence to protect me. COPA [/QUOTE]
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