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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 679560" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Leafie, I have studied psychiatry like a college student and, although I didn't go to college either, the newer school of thought IS that we are NOT born a blank slate. That is older thinking, pretty much disproven (I made up a word...haha) and, if it helps, I believe your version of your early life and how you were born from the bottom of my heart. I know I was born sensitive as opposed to other babies and my mother said I cried all the time and she couldn't even hold me...I stiffened up. If you look in a hospital nursery, you see all different temperments in the infants...alert and awake and looking around, screaming, calm and quiet...we are very much our inner DNA and personality per almost all experts.</p><p></p><p>I don't know w hat lead to that post as I did not read the entire thread, but it sounds as if somebody disagrees with this, but it has been proven and all infants are born with our own personalities. They can be somewhat influenced by our environments, but twin studies show strong, strong genetics in people, especially in studies where twins are split at birth and brought up in different homes.</p><p></p><p>My brother and sister did not have my "infant personality." No two infants are alike. There is no blank blackboard that needs writing. I know the studies I've read and they are NEW studies and many of them. I also study adopted kids and how they are usually a lot like their birthparents in personality. Of course most have more advantages in life if they are adopted, but many adoptees, when they meet their birthmothers (who is usually the one who is met) find that they have even mannerisms and way of speaking that are so alike and yet they have never met before. My BFF met her birthmother at age 37 and was SHOCKED at the similarities between the two of them. On the other hand, her birthmother was not as strong as she was because she had been forced to pretty much raise herself and her birthmother had been coddled and her children tended to coddle her further AND her husband. So nurure is a part. Nature seems to be stronger in most studies I've read. The days of Freud and h is theories and penis envy (lol) are done.On the other hand, being as sensitive a child as I was, and being neurologically atypical, I feel I could have been made stronger as a young adult if I had been taught coping skills for my sensitivity. I just knew how to feel. I did not know how to direct those feelings so often I did so inappropriately. I had to learn and it was a long learning curb and I am still rather sensitive.</p><p></p><p>Ok, so I came back for a bit and saw your post, Leafie, and mean no harm to Copa, but have not read anything that backs up the blank slate theory, if that indeed was your post (I did not read it). I am going to leave again as I am pretty much done with dealing with my FOO and the horrific issues of my own mother and these folks helped me a lot. However, don't ever feel invalidated for your own thoughts, beliefs and what you KNOW about yourself. (This to Leafie).</p><p></p><p>Everyone, have a great day and look for some peace. Again, I meant no harm to anyone, but Leafie sounded like she needed validation, which is so important, and she certainly has it from me.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to everyone!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 679560, member: 1550"] Leafie, I have studied psychiatry like a college student and, although I didn't go to college either, the newer school of thought IS that we are NOT born a blank slate. That is older thinking, pretty much disproven (I made up a word...haha) and, if it helps, I believe your version of your early life and how you were born from the bottom of my heart. I know I was born sensitive as opposed to other babies and my mother said I cried all the time and she couldn't even hold me...I stiffened up. If you look in a hospital nursery, you see all different temperments in the infants...alert and awake and looking around, screaming, calm and quiet...we are very much our inner DNA and personality per almost all experts. I don't know w hat lead to that post as I did not read the entire thread, but it sounds as if somebody disagrees with this, but it has been proven and all infants are born with our own personalities. They can be somewhat influenced by our environments, but twin studies show strong, strong genetics in people, especially in studies where twins are split at birth and brought up in different homes. My brother and sister did not have my "infant personality." No two infants are alike. There is no blank blackboard that needs writing. I know the studies I've read and they are NEW studies and many of them. I also study adopted kids and how they are usually a lot like their birthparents in personality. Of course most have more advantages in life if they are adopted, but many adoptees, when they meet their birthmothers (who is usually the one who is met) find that they have even mannerisms and way of speaking that are so alike and yet they have never met before. My BFF met her birthmother at age 37 and was SHOCKED at the similarities between the two of them. On the other hand, her birthmother was not as strong as she was because she had been forced to pretty much raise herself and her birthmother had been coddled and her children tended to coddle her further AND her husband. So nurure is a part. Nature seems to be stronger in most studies I've read. The days of Freud and h is theories and penis envy (lol) are done.On the other hand, being as sensitive a child as I was, and being neurologically atypical, I feel I could have been made stronger as a young adult if I had been taught coping skills for my sensitivity. I just knew how to feel. I did not know how to direct those feelings so often I did so inappropriately. I had to learn and it was a long learning curb and I am still rather sensitive. Ok, so I came back for a bit and saw your post, Leafie, and mean no harm to Copa, but have not read anything that backs up the blank slate theory, if that indeed was your post (I did not read it). I am going to leave again as I am pretty much done with dealing with my FOO and the horrific issues of my own mother and these folks helped me a lot. However, don't ever feel invalidated for your own thoughts, beliefs and what you KNOW about yourself. (This to Leafie). Everyone, have a great day and look for some peace. Again, I meant no harm to anyone, but Leafie sounded like she needed validation, which is so important, and she certainly has it from me. Hugs to everyone!!! [/QUOTE]
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