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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 679939" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>There is nothing to discard, Leafy. Nothing about who you are needs discarding or even, changing. It needs loving, and accepting and cherishing and time. All of it is you, unfolding in a warm and compassionate rain.</p><p></p><p>Ripening, in the Sun.</p><p></p><p>How does that go. Something about everything seems so rushed and complex that sometimes, we just to sit down.</p><p></p><p>Or, envision Iz, impossibly huge in that blue water. There is nothing he needed to do about who he was, and that was the magic of him.</p><p></p><p>That is what he could teach us.</p><p></p><p>That is where we are trying to get. So, in a way, we are already there.</p><p></p><p>Perfect, just as we are.</p><p></p><p>Just...perfect.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Just let it happen, okay Leafy? This is really hard, to do what we do here. That is where the concept of work comes in. When we feel overwhelmed, when too much has been keyed and we don't know what to do with it or how to be normal (which we spend so much time trying to be), that is when we do our work with our full attention. We don't need to have the answers, and we don't even need to say any words. When chopping onions, just chop onions. We drink our tea as though the fulcrum of the world spins on the attention we pay to savoring our tea and ourselves being alive where we are to drink it.</p><p></p><p>Which is all there is, really.</p><p></p><p>Our attention wants to wander. Our emotions want us to listen to them. But mostly, they are the fearful parts of us. They are trying to keep us safe by keeping us thinking in the old ways. By keeping us thinking in the ways that kept us safe in the unsafe environments of our family dynamic. When these things happen, we can assist ourselves best by taking a deep breath. By slowing time.</p><p></p><p>Did you know that taking a series of deep breaths lowers the number of brain waves firing per second?</p><p></p><p>You can do everything you envision, Leafy. You will never give yourself more than you can handle. It will feel like it. That part takes about three days to be through the worst of it. Then BOOM the world is a different thing than you knew it to be. This is about healing, and we are meant to heal, and to be whole. So, all we really need to do is get out of our own way. But it really is not so easy to do that. It is a practice, Leafy.</p><p></p><p>A practice.</p><p></p><p>Over time.</p><p></p><p>The Vietnamese monk who said that in troubled times we should drink our tea as though the Earth's orbit depended on it said this about overwhelming emotion: Asked whether he ever felt anger or rage or roaring frustration, he said yes. The shocked interviewer asked what the Buddhist monk told himself about that. The answer was: This is my practice. I work at my practice. (No quotes because I don't remember the exact quote, but you get the idea.)</p><p></p><p>Thich Nhat Hahn.</p><p></p><p>That is the monk's name.</p><p></p><p>Like he does too, we are committing to our Practice. Nothing more than that.</p><p></p><p>Steady state.</p><p></p><p>Beginning with kinder.</p><p></p><p>Just that one warm little concept of kinder to ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Not kind, but only kinder.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 679939, member: 17461"] There is nothing to discard, Leafy. Nothing about who you are needs discarding or even, changing. It needs loving, and accepting and cherishing and time. All of it is you, unfolding in a warm and compassionate rain. Ripening, in the Sun. How does that go. Something about everything seems so rushed and complex that sometimes, we just to sit down. Or, envision Iz, impossibly huge in that blue water. There is nothing he needed to do about who he was, and that was the magic of him. That is what he could teach us. That is where we are trying to get. So, in a way, we are already there. Perfect, just as we are. Just...perfect. *** Just let it happen, okay Leafy? This is really hard, to do what we do here. That is where the concept of work comes in. When we feel overwhelmed, when too much has been keyed and we don't know what to do with it or how to be normal (which we spend so much time trying to be), that is when we do our work with our full attention. We don't need to have the answers, and we don't even need to say any words. When chopping onions, just chop onions. We drink our tea as though the fulcrum of the world spins on the attention we pay to savoring our tea and ourselves being alive where we are to drink it. Which is all there is, really. Our attention wants to wander. Our emotions want us to listen to them. But mostly, they are the fearful parts of us. They are trying to keep us safe by keeping us thinking in the old ways. By keeping us thinking in the ways that kept us safe in the unsafe environments of our family dynamic. When these things happen, we can assist ourselves best by taking a deep breath. By slowing time. Did you know that taking a series of deep breaths lowers the number of brain waves firing per second? You can do everything you envision, Leafy. You will never give yourself more than you can handle. It will feel like it. That part takes about three days to be through the worst of it. Then BOOM the world is a different thing than you knew it to be. This is about healing, and we are meant to heal, and to be whole. So, all we really need to do is get out of our own way. But it really is not so easy to do that. It is a practice, Leafy. A practice. Over time. The Vietnamese monk who said that in troubled times we should drink our tea as though the Earth's orbit depended on it said this about overwhelming emotion: Asked whether he ever felt anger or rage or roaring frustration, he said yes. The shocked interviewer asked what the Buddhist monk told himself about that. The answer was: This is my practice. I work at my practice. (No quotes because I don't remember the exact quote, but you get the idea.) Thich Nhat Hahn. That is the monk's name. Like he does too, we are committing to our Practice. Nothing more than that. Steady state. Beginning with kinder. Just that one warm little concept of kinder to ourselves. Not kind, but only kinder. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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