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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 609092" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm sorry you are missing all the traditional senior year stuff. It does sting. But you have younger kids, hopefully you get to do all that with them. For your difficult child to miss that stuff, to be honest, I would guess you care more than him. My difficult child finished his school on his own way (in other words very untraditionally) and I certainly felt a sting of loosing all those traditions we have. Luckily my younger son seems eager to make that up to me. But remembering back when I was doing that stuff myself, I certainly have to say, it in fact tends to mean more as a parent than i5t did back then to myself. And I think it is true to my kids too. My easy child seems to enjoy the stuff, but I don't think he feels it to be important. And my difficult child is just happy to escape it all. But for the mom, yeah, it does sting. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p><p></p><p>I'm happy to hjear this school seems a good thing. If there is no opening at the time your son gets out from the treatment, could it be possible to have him in some other new school for him? Because Kathy and everyone else is right, that getting him back to same school and same friends is bad. But also non-addiction orientated new school would give him a chance for new peer group, if this school doesn't work out. And if that wouldn't work out, maybe online school and sober community activities?</p><p></p><p>I also agree with Kathy that 90 % success rate sounds bit suspiciously high (and suspiciously round number.) Did you ask how they research their success rate? And if that 90 % is for 6 months they are there (and how do they rate one time slips or short relapses) and have they researched their longer time success rates? </p><p></p><p>I don't want to come off as overly negative (while I understand this may feel like that), but you are considering paying big bucks to this school. You have the right to ask also hard questions and get honest answers. You are desperate and this school is something that seems like an answer, that is a situation that can cloud your decision making. Try to keep your eyes open and make a well informed decision about it. </p><p></p><p>You can ask the school, if they could give you references to their customers few years back. If you could talk even with one or two families, you would get lots of information, because in that tightly knit environment those families are almost bound to know how also other families whose kids were at the school at the same time are doing.</p><p></p><p>I hope this school turns out as good as it seems and you are able to get your kid in. But do try to come up with back up plan too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 609092, member: 14557"] I'm sorry you are missing all the traditional senior year stuff. It does sting. But you have younger kids, hopefully you get to do all that with them. For your difficult child to miss that stuff, to be honest, I would guess you care more than him. My difficult child finished his school on his own way (in other words very untraditionally) and I certainly felt a sting of loosing all those traditions we have. Luckily my younger son seems eager to make that up to me. But remembering back when I was doing that stuff myself, I certainly have to say, it in fact tends to mean more as a parent than i5t did back then to myself. And I think it is true to my kids too. My easy child seems to enjoy the stuff, but I don't think he feels it to be important. And my difficult child is just happy to escape it all. But for the mom, yeah, it does sting. :hugs: I'm happy to hjear this school seems a good thing. If there is no opening at the time your son gets out from the treatment, could it be possible to have him in some other new school for him? Because Kathy and everyone else is right, that getting him back to same school and same friends is bad. But also non-addiction orientated new school would give him a chance for new peer group, if this school doesn't work out. And if that wouldn't work out, maybe online school and sober community activities? I also agree with Kathy that 90 % success rate sounds bit suspiciously high (and suspiciously round number.) Did you ask how they research their success rate? And if that 90 % is for 6 months they are there (and how do they rate one time slips or short relapses) and have they researched their longer time success rates? I don't want to come off as overly negative (while I understand this may feel like that), but you are considering paying big bucks to this school. You have the right to ask also hard questions and get honest answers. You are desperate and this school is something that seems like an answer, that is a situation that can cloud your decision making. Try to keep your eyes open and make a well informed decision about it. You can ask the school, if they could give you references to their customers few years back. If you could talk even with one or two families, you would get lots of information, because in that tightly knit environment those families are almost bound to know how also other families whose kids were at the school at the same time are doing. I hope this school turns out as good as it seems and you are able to get your kid in. But do try to come up with back up plan too. [/QUOTE]
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