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Aggravated and humiliated (ridiculously long; sorry)
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 378661" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I think you may be right about depression and panic attacks being related to a feeling of foreboding. Unless he's got a spot-on history of psychic accuracy <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />, I would stick to the emotional clues. </p><p>I am so happy he feels safe enough to wake you up. Doesn't do much for your sleep patterns, though!</p><p>Were you able to soothe him?</p><p>I would have a conversation with-him and try some cognitive therapy, if you think he would be receptive. Simply state that unless a feeling "that something bad is going to happen" is proven correct (especially with-repeated occurances, a trait typically acquired by ACOAs and war victims), he needs to 1) recognize the feeling, 2) recognize the lack of threat by assessing his surroundings, 3) stabilize himself, again, by recognizing his surroundings and validating that they are safe and secure, and then 4) replacing the misplaced feeling with one of calm and peace. </p><p>No easy task for a kid or an adult!</p><p>I would not suggest that he validate his feelings by checking all the locks. You don't want one thing to lead to another.</p><p>As a creative person who has long dealt with-nightmares and odd thoughts (but lucky enough to be able to put them to use!) I have learned to pick up on cues around the house such as whether the dogs are barking and whether the power is still on.</p><p>You know how you wake up in the middle of the night because something is wrong? But it's so quiet that nothing is really wrong? And then you realize that something is wrong--because it's too quiet? Because the power has gone out?</p><p> </p><p>It could be little things like that, that he is hypersensitve to. </p><p> </p><p>Is he able to create anything from his fears or thoughts? Artwork? Stories? Music? I would encourage him to. It will help him express himself, put his energies to good use, and give you a clue as to what's going on in his mind.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 378661, member: 3419"] I think you may be right about depression and panic attacks being related to a feeling of foreboding. Unless he's got a spot-on history of psychic accuracy :winking:, I would stick to the emotional clues. I am so happy he feels safe enough to wake you up. Doesn't do much for your sleep patterns, though! Were you able to soothe him? I would have a conversation with-him and try some cognitive therapy, if you think he would be receptive. Simply state that unless a feeling "that something bad is going to happen" is proven correct (especially with-repeated occurances, a trait typically acquired by ACOAs and war victims), he needs to 1) recognize the feeling, 2) recognize the lack of threat by assessing his surroundings, 3) stabilize himself, again, by recognizing his surroundings and validating that they are safe and secure, and then 4) replacing the misplaced feeling with one of calm and peace. No easy task for a kid or an adult! I would not suggest that he validate his feelings by checking all the locks. You don't want one thing to lead to another. As a creative person who has long dealt with-nightmares and odd thoughts (but lucky enough to be able to put them to use!) I have learned to pick up on cues around the house such as whether the dogs are barking and whether the power is still on. You know how you wake up in the middle of the night because something is wrong? But it's so quiet that nothing is really wrong? And then you realize that something is wrong--because it's too quiet? Because the power has gone out? It could be little things like that, that he is hypersensitve to. Is he able to create anything from his fears or thoughts? Artwork? Stories? Music? I would encourage him to. It will help him express himself, put his energies to good use, and give you a clue as to what's going on in his mind. [/QUOTE]
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