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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 53990" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I had a similar experience with my only biological son, so I have a different take on this. </p><p>My biological son had no diagnosis. as a young child and definitely does not have ADHD nor was he really difficult for me to raise, but he had some issues with other kids, mostly that many would get hurt around him. It was never serious, but it was often. I didn't want to see it so at first I would defend him, but eventually I realized that it just happened too often for me to ignore it and he got counseling. Using Time Out worked really well with him. Every time he so much as put his finger on another child who didn't want him to, He was put in his time out spot, and he eventually quit the aggression, which may be considered mild, but, like I said, it happened way too often. My son is now 29 and I suspect he may have a cross of mild, mild Aspergers and a mood disorder, but I'm not sure. It's not his diagnosis, but look at his medications and they do help him from being so anxious. He was always a hyper, hyper, nervous kid, although he managed to have lots of friends--even his hitting didn't stop that. He could also be mean verbally, although that has stopped as an adult too. We had to throw the book at him to change his behavior. I do realize that some kids don't respond to behavioral modification--really depends on what is driving the aggression. With my son, he would hit somebody if they were beating him in a game or running a race and getting ahead of him. That seemed to be the overriding matter with him; he just couldn't lose. I guess the motto of this post is, if it happens "too much" it's probably on purpose. I hated to admit it, but I had to. I think you're probably right, and the teacher is probably wrong. Unfortunately, I found that when somebody accused M. of hurting thier kid, at least in his case, it seemed to be try, although he always said, "By accident!" I think you have a good reading on your son, and hope his aggression calms as he gets older. My son isn't aggressive at all now. He's never even been in a fight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 53990, member: 1550"] I had a similar experience with my only biological son, so I have a different take on this. My biological son had no diagnosis. as a young child and definitely does not have ADHD nor was he really difficult for me to raise, but he had some issues with other kids, mostly that many would get hurt around him. It was never serious, but it was often. I didn't want to see it so at first I would defend him, but eventually I realized that it just happened too often for me to ignore it and he got counseling. Using Time Out worked really well with him. Every time he so much as put his finger on another child who didn't want him to, He was put in his time out spot, and he eventually quit the aggression, which may be considered mild, but, like I said, it happened way too often. My son is now 29 and I suspect he may have a cross of mild, mild Aspergers and a mood disorder, but I'm not sure. It's not his diagnosis, but look at his medications and they do help him from being so anxious. He was always a hyper, hyper, nervous kid, although he managed to have lots of friends--even his hitting didn't stop that. He could also be mean verbally, although that has stopped as an adult too. We had to throw the book at him to change his behavior. I do realize that some kids don't respond to behavioral modification--really depends on what is driving the aggression. With my son, he would hit somebody if they were beating him in a game or running a race and getting ahead of him. That seemed to be the overriding matter with him; he just couldn't lose. I guess the motto of this post is, if it happens "too much" it's probably on purpose. I hated to admit it, but I had to. I think you're probably right, and the teacher is probably wrong. Unfortunately, I found that when somebody accused M. of hurting thier kid, at least in his case, it seemed to be try, although he always said, "By accident!" I think you have a good reading on your son, and hope his aggression calms as he gets older. My son isn't aggressive at all now. He's never even been in a fight. [/QUOTE]
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