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<blockquote data-quote="Ally" data-source="post: 54109" data-attributes="member: 2871"><p>You cant always go around guessing what your child is going to do. Its not your fault that this happened. Maybe it was an accident. They do happen, even with "our" kids. I am always the first one to say, what did you do first, when difficult child tells me something happens to her. </p><p></p><p>There are other kids out there that provoke our children so that they can be blamed. My son, who had Down Syndrome, has communication issues. We have been teaching him to use his words instead of actions (Hitting, biting, scratching) and last week he scratched a child. Why you ask?? Because he used his words and told this child to stop several times and the child didnt and he then scratched him on the face. No its not right, but he did what we taught him, to use his words first. I cant fault him for using agression after doing what he was taught if this child didnt listen. Yes, I talked to him about it, but didnt give him trouble. I explained to the school that he had indeed used his words and then his actions, what more could they ask (going back several months he would have just reacted and not tried to use words)</p><p></p><p>What Im trying to get at is that its not always our childs fault. Yes, 90% of the time it probably is, but we have to give them the benefit of the doubt from time to time, or they dont ever see any reason to be good and do whats right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ally, post: 54109, member: 2871"] You cant always go around guessing what your child is going to do. Its not your fault that this happened. Maybe it was an accident. They do happen, even with "our" kids. I am always the first one to say, what did you do first, when difficult child tells me something happens to her. There are other kids out there that provoke our children so that they can be blamed. My son, who had Down Syndrome, has communication issues. We have been teaching him to use his words instead of actions (Hitting, biting, scratching) and last week he scratched a child. Why you ask?? Because he used his words and told this child to stop several times and the child didnt and he then scratched him on the face. No its not right, but he did what we taught him, to use his words first. I cant fault him for using agression after doing what he was taught if this child didnt listen. Yes, I talked to him about it, but didnt give him trouble. I explained to the school that he had indeed used his words and then his actions, what more could they ask (going back several months he would have just reacted and not tried to use words) What Im trying to get at is that its not always our childs fault. Yes, 90% of the time it probably is, but we have to give them the benefit of the doubt from time to time, or they dont ever see any reason to be good and do whats right. [/QUOTE]
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