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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 262552" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>My difficult child was like this and we did what Star did and followed him around it worked to a certain degree but did not cure him of lying. We soon learned that it was up to us to verify all that he told us and we told everyone to do the same. If they didn't follow through it was their problem and we told them that too. on the occasions when difficult child took advantage of an unsuspecting person by lying we would try to make good on it and either return or replace the item or money involved. We would then tell them that it was now up to them to check the facts before giving difficult child money or whatever. </p><p> </p><p>In the long run my difficult child never really "got it" about the lying although he isn't as blatant about it now. He now tells half truths or withholds pertinent information entirely. He is 22 now and bottom line is we do not trust him (natural consequences of his actions) but it doesn't matter that much to us anymore because he no longer lives with us and we are no longer responsible for his actions. </p><p> </p><p>As far as the behavior reports from school have them e-mail it to you every day. That way you will be sure to get them. Do the same with anything that needs your attention. I was a teacher and I learned that for some kids this was the only way to make sure parents got the info they neded. I e-mailed grades, assignments, messages regarding behaviors etc. Had to because the difficult child's I taught got home before their parents and they deleted telephone messages, threw out mail and lied about everything. Havig had a difficult child of my own I knew to compensate and get around their bad behaviors. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 262552, member: 2315"] My difficult child was like this and we did what Star did and followed him around it worked to a certain degree but did not cure him of lying. We soon learned that it was up to us to verify all that he told us and we told everyone to do the same. If they didn't follow through it was their problem and we told them that too. on the occasions when difficult child took advantage of an unsuspecting person by lying we would try to make good on it and either return or replace the item or money involved. We would then tell them that it was now up to them to check the facts before giving difficult child money or whatever. In the long run my difficult child never really "got it" about the lying although he isn't as blatant about it now. He now tells half truths or withholds pertinent information entirely. He is 22 now and bottom line is we do not trust him (natural consequences of his actions) but it doesn't matter that much to us anymore because he no longer lives with us and we are no longer responsible for his actions. As far as the behavior reports from school have them e-mail it to you every day. That way you will be sure to get them. Do the same with anything that needs your attention. I was a teacher and I learned that for some kids this was the only way to make sure parents got the info they neded. I e-mailed grades, assignments, messages regarding behaviors etc. Had to because the difficult child's I taught got home before their parents and they deleted telephone messages, threw out mail and lied about everything. Havig had a difficult child of my own I knew to compensate and get around their bad behaviors. -RM [/QUOTE]
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