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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 397265" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>It really was not OK with me. We never drink on Christmas Eve. Every year since we got married we went to dad's on Christmas Eve and never drank anything, it wasn't that kind of celebration. This year was different because her daughter is getting married and he likes beer and so of course we had to accomodate him. And my nephew who has had two DUI's now has a girlfriend and so I guess they needed to drink. And for some reason mysister decided she would have a glass of wine even though she never drinks because she's on heart medications. It was made worse because two weeks before Christmas when difficult child relapsed and didn't come home, dad called and asked if she was still coming on Christmas Eve because if she wasn't he wanted to serve alcohol. I told him I had no idea if she was coming home that night so how would I know if she would be there. And if it was that important to drink then wejust wouldn't come. That caused a big problem with my sister who proceeded to send some very nasty texts.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line is I explained when she got out of rehab that it was important that she not be around alcohol especially in her early sobriety and that triggers are very harmful. I explained that we had no alcohol in our home and if we were somewhere where alcohol was served we would leave and I asked them to understand and support that. To sneak in the kitchen and drink when difficult child was walking in and out of there all night was very hurtful to me and very nonsupportive to her.</p><p></p><p>I suppose it doesn't matter much anymore since difficult child has completely relapsed and we are working on getting her out of the house, but I'm not sure my relationship with my sister will ever be repaired. I know that if she were in my shoes I would have bent over backwards to support her.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 397265, member: 59"] It really was not OK with me. We never drink on Christmas Eve. Every year since we got married we went to dad's on Christmas Eve and never drank anything, it wasn't that kind of celebration. This year was different because her daughter is getting married and he likes beer and so of course we had to accomodate him. And my nephew who has had two DUI's now has a girlfriend and so I guess they needed to drink. And for some reason mysister decided she would have a glass of wine even though she never drinks because she's on heart medications. It was made worse because two weeks before Christmas when difficult child relapsed and didn't come home, dad called and asked if she was still coming on Christmas Eve because if she wasn't he wanted to serve alcohol. I told him I had no idea if she was coming home that night so how would I know if she would be there. And if it was that important to drink then wejust wouldn't come. That caused a big problem with my sister who proceeded to send some very nasty texts. Bottom line is I explained when she got out of rehab that it was important that she not be around alcohol especially in her early sobriety and that triggers are very harmful. I explained that we had no alcohol in our home and if we were somewhere where alcohol was served we would leave and I asked them to understand and support that. To sneak in the kitchen and drink when difficult child was walking in and out of there all night was very hurtful to me and very nonsupportive to her. I suppose it doesn't matter much anymore since difficult child has completely relapsed and we are working on getting her out of the house, but I'm not sure my relationship with my sister will ever be repaired. I know that if she were in my shoes I would have bent over backwards to support her. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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