husband just came and told me he was going to take a nap. He told me that he wanted to sleep in this am, but the cat wouldn't let him. It seems Capn was trying to get J to feed him and she ignored him. He scratched her (not something I will scold/punish him for because he ONLY does this when she is holding him and he is slipping or when he really needs something and she flat out will NOT give it to him. WHen J wants to not be scratched, she will stop picking him up and holding him in a precarious manner and she will stop making his beg and beg when he needs something. He doesn't ask for food unless his bowl has been empty for quite a few hours.) and she still refused to even glance at his bowl to see if it was empty. So Cap'n went and just patted husband's face until he woke up. husband has been fussing about the kids not feeding the cat (theoretically it is one of the kids' chores) for quite some time now. I used to be sympathetic and I used to get on the kids a LOT about this. husband? almost never says anything to them about this. He tells ME and expects me to make the kids comply. Um, no. Not happening. This is between husband, Cap'n and the kids. Cat strongly prefers husband to do all his things, but he does let the kids feed him and change his water and wll let thank you do the litter box. He own't use it if J or I do it, not until husband or thank you will stir it around. Talk about the chauvinist cat, lol. I told husband that HE needed to sit both kids down and tell them flat out that if the cat is pestering them and they do not make sure he has clean food and water in clean dishes and a clean litter box, then they will get X consequence. If the cat wakes husband up because whatever kid is up/around that the kid (s) refused to even try to take care of, there will be a bigger consequence. I told him that I would back him up, but HE must be the one to tell the kids AND to enforce it. He also has to figure out what X consequence is. Needless to say, he was rather disappointed by my reaction. He HATES it when he is asking for sympathy and he gets "it is time to stop this. You need to do ..." instead. I get tired of him complaining but not doing anything to fix it. He usually does come through though. I can only give sympathy so many times on a given issue, Know what I mean??