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ALL THIS - IT's at the least half my faul..I cannot see it any other way-I have tried
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 472900" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>(((dollphyn)))</p><p></p><p>I so agree with whats been stated above...None of us is perfect and we only have NOW to work with. </p><p></p><p>You know dollphyn...</p><p>I tried to do things differently than how I was raised. What I wanted most was a family. </p><p>My mom raised me alone (didn't meet my dad til I was 17).</p><p>No brothers or sisters. </p><p>My mom moved me 10 times around the country before I was in the 9th grade. </p><p></p><p>So what did I do...Had 3 children. Have been married to the same man for 25yrs. Have lived mostly in the same area for the past 20 yrs. Gave my children siblings. </p><p>Helped them with homework projects etc...whereas my mom gave me very very little support. </p><p>I was a stay at home mom as opposed to the career mom that mine was. </p><p></p><p>Yes, we spoiled...were there consequences too. You bet, lol, my mom used to say that all my children were going to remember about their childhood was what the "corners" of our house looked like. As I sent them to the corner for time out frequently...mostly the difficult child's. </p><p></p><p>But that's the thing...I ended up with 2 difficult child's anyway. And they have seen a good life. Lots of family dinners, family game nights, vacations, lots of sports activities, various kinds of lessons, including art, piano, etc. </p><p></p><p>What can we do now. That is a really good thought for me as well today as I am struggling to find answers too. </p><p>But I know beating myself up...won't solve a thing. </p><p></p><p>I hope you are able to reconsile this within yourself. You did the VERY best you could and you knew how, and like me, you may have even gone against the grain of how you were raised...in order to make a difference in your children's lives. Trying to do everything either differently or get positive results by all that you believed in. </p><p></p><p>Raising a difficult child is not for the faint of heart...as it's been said. </p><p>I am sending you strength and a prayer that you find peace in all the things that you DID do well and with all the love you DID provide. </p><p></p><p>These difficult child's constantly try to make it about someone/something else...but this is no one's fault but their own. I don't believe that many of our difficult child's have any vaild true really good reasons for their horrible behavior. </p><p></p><p>This is not your fault...promise. </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 472900, member: 3305"] (((dollphyn))) I so agree with whats been stated above...None of us is perfect and we only have NOW to work with. You know dollphyn... I tried to do things differently than how I was raised. What I wanted most was a family. My mom raised me alone (didn't meet my dad til I was 17). No brothers or sisters. My mom moved me 10 times around the country before I was in the 9th grade. So what did I do...Had 3 children. Have been married to the same man for 25yrs. Have lived mostly in the same area for the past 20 yrs. Gave my children siblings. Helped them with homework projects etc...whereas my mom gave me very very little support. I was a stay at home mom as opposed to the career mom that mine was. Yes, we spoiled...were there consequences too. You bet, lol, my mom used to say that all my children were going to remember about their childhood was what the "corners" of our house looked like. As I sent them to the corner for time out frequently...mostly the difficult child's. But that's the thing...I ended up with 2 difficult child's anyway. And they have seen a good life. Lots of family dinners, family game nights, vacations, lots of sports activities, various kinds of lessons, including art, piano, etc. What can we do now. That is a really good thought for me as well today as I am struggling to find answers too. But I know beating myself up...won't solve a thing. I hope you are able to reconsile this within yourself. You did the VERY best you could and you knew how, and like me, you may have even gone against the grain of how you were raised...in order to make a difference in your children's lives. Trying to do everything either differently or get positive results by all that you believed in. Raising a difficult child is not for the faint of heart...as it's been said. I am sending you strength and a prayer that you find peace in all the things that you DID do well and with all the love you DID provide. These difficult child's constantly try to make it about someone/something else...but this is no one's fault but their own. I don't believe that many of our difficult child's have any vaild true really good reasons for their horrible behavior. This is not your fault...promise. LMS [/QUOTE]
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