We adopted my son at birth - took him home from the hospital. Although he tested clear for drugs/alcohol at the hospital, we do believe his birthmom drank during her pregnancy (her car was filled with liquor bottles).
He was a colicy baby & has always been an extreemly difficult child to raise (starting at 18 months when the tantrums begin, like any other child, but his have always been worse).
He's been in different therapies & sees a developmental pediatrician & a behavioral therapist currently. They have diagnosed him ADHD & Anxiety.
He can be a great, sweet child, whom I enjoy raising. That will last from a few days to a few months. And then he becomes seemingly possesed by a demon. I actually took him to a nutritionist a few weeks ago and, after seeing how he behaved, the doctor "jokingly" pretended to cast a demon out of him.
When he's in one of his "possesed" phases (which can last anywhere from 1 week to a few months... right now we're at about 4 weeks of hell) it's an absolutle nightmare to be in this house. Everything we ask him to do (or tell him to stop doing) turns into WWIII. Bedtimes are always the worst, and turn into a 2-3 hour attempt to break his door in half, destroy anything left in his room (all of his toys have been taken out), bang on the window, kick the walls, scream at the top of his lungs, tell us he's moving out, etc. There is NOTHING you can do (short of giving him his way, which we don't do) to calm him down.
We've tried everything you can think of dicipline wise, and nothing works. My last attempt was to not just take toys away, but THROW them away. After threatening to do that, he took his toy & threw it in the trash. And gave me the "take that" look. His attitude is HORRIBLE. He behaves fine & school & for others (my parents, etc) but not at home, or in public with my husband & I.
I have tried all of the diet changes, none of which have given us any relief. The behavior therpist doesn't get how awful it is because he, or course, is decent when he's there.
I am completely at my wits end. My husband called our behavioral therapist yesterday to tell her what is going on & she prescribed Risperital (sp?). I am reading about it online & it's freaking me out a little. He's currently on Tenex & I do think that has helped his anxiety to some extent (he couldn't handle being around other people, couldn't go to school without a huge meltdown, etc before the Tenex). If anyone has had their child on Risperital, I'd love to hear your thoughts. I can't talk to friends or family about this because they either don't understand how awful it is and say "oh yah, my kid does that too" or they think it's somehow a parenting issue (which, trust me, I carry enough guilt that this is somehow my fault). I am absolutley miserable in my own house & although I love him, sometimes I don't like him one bit & wish he was out of this house. No one can understand that feeling unless they have a child like this, and I know no one like that.... which is why I'm here. I'm desprite for support & advice from others who know what I'm talking about because they've walked through it
He was a colicy baby & has always been an extreemly difficult child to raise (starting at 18 months when the tantrums begin, like any other child, but his have always been worse).
He's been in different therapies & sees a developmental pediatrician & a behavioral therapist currently. They have diagnosed him ADHD & Anxiety.
He can be a great, sweet child, whom I enjoy raising. That will last from a few days to a few months. And then he becomes seemingly possesed by a demon. I actually took him to a nutritionist a few weeks ago and, after seeing how he behaved, the doctor "jokingly" pretended to cast a demon out of him.
When he's in one of his "possesed" phases (which can last anywhere from 1 week to a few months... right now we're at about 4 weeks of hell) it's an absolutle nightmare to be in this house. Everything we ask him to do (or tell him to stop doing) turns into WWIII. Bedtimes are always the worst, and turn into a 2-3 hour attempt to break his door in half, destroy anything left in his room (all of his toys have been taken out), bang on the window, kick the walls, scream at the top of his lungs, tell us he's moving out, etc. There is NOTHING you can do (short of giving him his way, which we don't do) to calm him down.
We've tried everything you can think of dicipline wise, and nothing works. My last attempt was to not just take toys away, but THROW them away. After threatening to do that, he took his toy & threw it in the trash. And gave me the "take that" look. His attitude is HORRIBLE. He behaves fine & school & for others (my parents, etc) but not at home, or in public with my husband & I.
I have tried all of the diet changes, none of which have given us any relief. The behavior therpist doesn't get how awful it is because he, or course, is decent when he's there.
I am completely at my wits end. My husband called our behavioral therapist yesterday to tell her what is going on & she prescribed Risperital (sp?). I am reading about it online & it's freaking me out a little. He's currently on Tenex & I do think that has helped his anxiety to some extent (he couldn't handle being around other people, couldn't go to school without a huge meltdown, etc before the Tenex). If anyone has had their child on Risperital, I'd love to hear your thoughts. I can't talk to friends or family about this because they either don't understand how awful it is and say "oh yah, my kid does that too" or they think it's somehow a parenting issue (which, trust me, I carry enough guilt that this is somehow my fault). I am absolutley miserable in my own house & although I love him, sometimes I don't like him one bit & wish he was out of this house. No one can understand that feeling unless they have a child like this, and I know no one like that.... which is why I'm here. I'm desprite for support & advice from others who know what I'm talking about because they've walked through it