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<blockquote data-quote="cathyw1970" data-source="post: 112707" data-attributes="member: 4471"><p>I sooooo know what you are going thru. In fact I have not had any contact with my mother (who I feel is bipolar also) because of the fact that whatever help me and husband would try to get for difficult child she would try to undo. She went so far as to call protective services on us on a few occasions. One being when we was in the early stages of diagnosis and was trying different medications. She contacted them stating that we was just drugging him up because we didn't want to deal with him. That was the last straw and even tho I hated to I had to distance my family from the negative. It makes me so dag on angry to hear that all our difficult child's need is a good old fashioned beating. My difficult child can not go to my dad's and stepmom's to stay all night but our girls can. There is only one family member who will have anything to do with him. They don't seem to understand that the more our difficult child's feel isolated the worse they can become. My son has asked me many times why does everyone hate him. To give you an example, this Christmas, our girls got numerous presents from family members and difficult child only got a present from my dad and from my cousin. That's it. So here is what I did. I wrote everyone a letter letting them know that we have him as a child also and if they can't give for all 3 not to give for any. What I wanted to do was give the gifts back but I couldn't do that to the girls. So I told husband that from here on out we will not be taking part in holidays where there are gifts involved. I was always told that family should always back you. However, that is the furtherest thing from the truth. The way I look at it is this. Until you have experienced the hell we go thru don't try and pass judgement. I would love for them just for 1hr to walk in difficult child's shoes then maybe they can somewhat begin to understand the hell he goes thru.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cathyw1970, post: 112707, member: 4471"] I sooooo know what you are going thru. In fact I have not had any contact with my mother (who I feel is bipolar also) because of the fact that whatever help me and husband would try to get for difficult child she would try to undo. She went so far as to call protective services on us on a few occasions. One being when we was in the early stages of diagnosis and was trying different medications. She contacted them stating that we was just drugging him up because we didn't want to deal with him. That was the last straw and even tho I hated to I had to distance my family from the negative. It makes me so dag on angry to hear that all our difficult child's need is a good old fashioned beating. My difficult child can not go to my dad's and stepmom's to stay all night but our girls can. There is only one family member who will have anything to do with him. They don't seem to understand that the more our difficult child's feel isolated the worse they can become. My son has asked me many times why does everyone hate him. To give you an example, this Christmas, our girls got numerous presents from family members and difficult child only got a present from my dad and from my cousin. That's it. So here is what I did. I wrote everyone a letter letting them know that we have him as a child also and if they can't give for all 3 not to give for any. What I wanted to do was give the gifts back but I couldn't do that to the girls. So I told husband that from here on out we will not be taking part in holidays where there are gifts involved. I was always told that family should always back you. However, that is the furtherest thing from the truth. The way I look at it is this. Until you have experienced the hell we go thru don't try and pass judgement. I would love for them just for 1hr to walk in difficult child's shoes then maybe they can somewhat begin to understand the hell he goes thru. [/QUOTE]
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