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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 296444" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If it's any consolation, he is unlikely to have fallen while on the roof. However, it's highly likely he wouldn't have remembered he was there to clean the gutters. He may have ended up removing the TV antenna!</p><p></p><p>You can't do the thinking for other people. Your mother in law needs to face facts and be honest about her reasons for needing time out. She needs to be able to be honest with herself about it. But if your H isn't listening to you, it sonds like there has been a long history of denial going way back. A heavy culture of it and you're not going to be able to change that.</p><p></p><p>If you were in Australia I'd tell you to call the ACAT team (Aged Care Assessment) and get them to come and assess him. You shouldn't do this without the cooperation of those involved, it's something your H should do for his mother (or better still, talk her into accepting this). They would come and assess how they're coping on their own and then make recommendations/put in services to enable them to stay in their own home for as long as possible, if that is what they want. But it would come with a heavy dose of reality.</p><p></p><p>There should be a similar government service in your country? Perhaps ask at the hosppital, ask the GP, see what is there.</p><p></p><p>Or maybe it's what we get here for having a public heqalth system?</p><p></p><p>It's a multidisciplinary team including physiotherapists, Occupational therapists, psychologists, community nurses and geriatricians.</p><p></p><p>I hope it can help. But until those involved are willnig to open their eyes, you are not going to be able to help. Unfortunately, it will have to require a tragedy for some people to wake up.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 296444, member: 1991"] If it's any consolation, he is unlikely to have fallen while on the roof. However, it's highly likely he wouldn't have remembered he was there to clean the gutters. He may have ended up removing the TV antenna! You can't do the thinking for other people. Your mother in law needs to face facts and be honest about her reasons for needing time out. She needs to be able to be honest with herself about it. But if your H isn't listening to you, it sonds like there has been a long history of denial going way back. A heavy culture of it and you're not going to be able to change that. If you were in Australia I'd tell you to call the ACAT team (Aged Care Assessment) and get them to come and assess him. You shouldn't do this without the cooperation of those involved, it's something your H should do for his mother (or better still, talk her into accepting this). They would come and assess how they're coping on their own and then make recommendations/put in services to enable them to stay in their own home for as long as possible, if that is what they want. But it would come with a heavy dose of reality. There should be a similar government service in your country? Perhaps ask at the hosppital, ask the GP, see what is there. Or maybe it's what we get here for having a public heqalth system? It's a multidisciplinary team including physiotherapists, Occupational therapists, psychologists, community nurses and geriatricians. I hope it can help. But until those involved are willnig to open their eyes, you are not going to be able to help. Unfortunately, it will have to require a tragedy for some people to wake up. Marg [/QUOTE]
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