StressedM0mma
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difficult child told me something (actually write me a note), and I am having a hard time believing her. I have put my armor on, so if you need to yell or criticize I am ready.
difficult child told me that she had(has) an eating disorder. That she was not eating during the time she was cutting, and after she quit cutting. Now, I watched both of my girls and what they ate. And, she never restricted what she ate. She told me she only ate at home, and that while she was at school she would just throw away the lunch I made. She was thin, but not skinny. She was telling me she was passing blood when she was going to the bathroom. And that her hair was falling out. Now, the hair part I straight out do not believe. She is constantly getting her hair cut, and a friend of mine does it, and she never mentioned it. And she would have if her hair even seemed brittle. The blood, I do not know. When prodded, she couldn't/wouldn't give me a direct answer.
I have been very detached from difficult child these past few days. I told her it was up to her to make the decision about school, and I was no longer going to worry over it. I completely detached from it. She has been following me around actually asking to help with things/chores. So not difficult child. I feel like since I no longer am bowing down to her, and fretting and hand wringing she felt the need to "up the ante" so to speak.
Unfortunately, with all of the lying she has done the past year, I am having a hard time believing her. When I went up to her room to talk about it with her, there were no tears, and she didn't seem worried. She had this weird smile/smirk on her face. And when I asked her a couple of questions her first response was "what you don't believe me?" Why would she have jumped to so you don't believe me before I really even said anything?
Am I dealing with yet more manipulation, or is she trying to open up? Call me a horrid mom, but my gut is telling me manipulation.
I am ready for any and all responses/opinions good or bad.
difficult child told me that she had(has) an eating disorder. That she was not eating during the time she was cutting, and after she quit cutting. Now, I watched both of my girls and what they ate. And, she never restricted what she ate. She told me she only ate at home, and that while she was at school she would just throw away the lunch I made. She was thin, but not skinny. She was telling me she was passing blood when she was going to the bathroom. And that her hair was falling out. Now, the hair part I straight out do not believe. She is constantly getting her hair cut, and a friend of mine does it, and she never mentioned it. And she would have if her hair even seemed brittle. The blood, I do not know. When prodded, she couldn't/wouldn't give me a direct answer.
I have been very detached from difficult child these past few days. I told her it was up to her to make the decision about school, and I was no longer going to worry over it. I completely detached from it. She has been following me around actually asking to help with things/chores. So not difficult child. I feel like since I no longer am bowing down to her, and fretting and hand wringing she felt the need to "up the ante" so to speak.
Unfortunately, with all of the lying she has done the past year, I am having a hard time believing her. When I went up to her room to talk about it with her, there were no tears, and she didn't seem worried. She had this weird smile/smirk on her face. And when I asked her a couple of questions her first response was "what you don't believe me?" Why would she have jumped to so you don't believe me before I really even said anything?
Am I dealing with yet more manipulation, or is she trying to open up? Call me a horrid mom, but my gut is telling me manipulation.
I am ready for any and all responses/opinions good or bad.