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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 394578" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I don't think you are being petty. I think the ideas suggested are good ones. I think whatever it takes to feel good again about your offer to have houseguests, needs to be done. I think its time for a healthy, air clearing, honest heart to heart with your houseguests. Something like: I was and still am happy to offer to give you all a place to stay while your house is in the works. What I didn't realize was the big adjustment it would require since I'm used to it being just husband and I. I'm sure you all can understand that (Insert big smile!). I think we need to set some stuff into motion to make it a enjoyable experience for all of us and to help me adapt to sharing my home, especially during a holiday period that means a lot to me, with another large group and the extra dog. Here's how things would work best as far as I see and after I explain what I think would help this go smoothly, I'm open to anything any of you can suggest to make this all go smoothly.</p><p>1) I'm going to implement a chore system/chart that outlines expectations of everyone. This will include regular routine upkeep, meals, and additional tasks that concern the household such as decorating the household for the holidays, etc. </p><p>2) I'm going to ask you to pick up a inexpensive baby gate so we can use it at times when things are hectic, to limit the roaming space for the dog, especially in areas where some very important decorations will be placed etc</p><p>3) I'm asking that you all appreciate the fact that while we've asked nothing in return for your staying here, we are struggling already and unable to do our normal basic traditions this holiday with our kids for many reasons, and we also anticipate a increased billing period for utilities with a larger household for the next while. Out of respect for our inability to follow through on certain gifting traditions etc, I'm asking that if you choose to exchange lavish gifts, stockings etc, that you enjoy that together elsewhere. You are welcome for all other festivities, but given our inability to do for our kids the things we'd usually do, it seems unfair for them to come visit at home and watch others having a more lavish experience of gifting. Instead, when we are together as a group we can keep our focus this holiday on enjoying some good food, each others company, and the ability to spend time with one another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 394578, member: 4264"] I don't think you are being petty. I think the ideas suggested are good ones. I think whatever it takes to feel good again about your offer to have houseguests, needs to be done. I think its time for a healthy, air clearing, honest heart to heart with your houseguests. Something like: I was and still am happy to offer to give you all a place to stay while your house is in the works. What I didn't realize was the big adjustment it would require since I'm used to it being just husband and I. I'm sure you all can understand that (Insert big smile!). I think we need to set some stuff into motion to make it a enjoyable experience for all of us and to help me adapt to sharing my home, especially during a holiday period that means a lot to me, with another large group and the extra dog. Here's how things would work best as far as I see and after I explain what I think would help this go smoothly, I'm open to anything any of you can suggest to make this all go smoothly. 1) I'm going to implement a chore system/chart that outlines expectations of everyone. This will include regular routine upkeep, meals, and additional tasks that concern the household such as decorating the household for the holidays, etc. 2) I'm going to ask you to pick up a inexpensive baby gate so we can use it at times when things are hectic, to limit the roaming space for the dog, especially in areas where some very important decorations will be placed etc 3) I'm asking that you all appreciate the fact that while we've asked nothing in return for your staying here, we are struggling already and unable to do our normal basic traditions this holiday with our kids for many reasons, and we also anticipate a increased billing period for utilities with a larger household for the next while. Out of respect for our inability to follow through on certain gifting traditions etc, I'm asking that if you choose to exchange lavish gifts, stockings etc, that you enjoy that together elsewhere. You are welcome for all other festivities, but given our inability to do for our kids the things we'd usually do, it seems unfair for them to come visit at home and watch others having a more lavish experience of gifting. Instead, when we are together as a group we can keep our focus this holiday on enjoying some good food, each others company, and the ability to spend time with one another. [/QUOTE]
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