Big Bad Kitty
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Tink woke up today and said she did not feel good.
First it was her throat, then it was her stomach. Then it was because she thought she would throw up. Also she was tired. She had an answer for everything.
I offered pain killers, cough drops, a massage. Nope, she was JUST not feeling good.
OK, fine. You are sick? You keep your hot little butt in your room. No computer, no crafts, and no playtime with mom.
Well of course as the day goes on she is not that sick. If I had a car, believe you me, I would have carted her right to school. But part of me thinks this is better. She needs to understand that a day off from school is not a day off from life. I want her to not want to stay home.
Let me clarify by saying that in the past 4 weeks, she has had 4 days off (holidays, institute, etc) plus I have kept her home twice (once for not feeling well, once for a mental health day). On the day she was not feeling well, she slept all day. The other days, we did stuff together. It was like a free saturday. I think that she as expecting another fun day out of school with me if she stayed home today.
She has been constantly trying to manipulate me into playing with her. Or she comes in my room and lays on my bed (like she owns the place) and says "at least I am laying down" and I keep shooing her off to her room. She is also telling me that the REAL reason she wanted to stay home is because she is upset about her dad. She is presently sobbing uncontrollably in her room (and it sounds SOOOO forced). I have suggested writing a letter to him or drawing him a picture. No, she wants to be with me and talk about it. Which is great, I WANT her to talk about it. But after about 42 seconds she starts talking about how bored she is, and can't I just give her her Easter gifts early.
Yes, EASTER gifts! She just got a care package from a dear friend of mine yesterday, ocmplete with a toy dog, baseball caps, hair accessories, stickers, all kinds of goodies, and she is asking me for a toy.
So I keep making her go back to her room. And she is throwing things and screaming about how mean I am. ANd then telling me how sorry she is.
I am making her stay in her room as a consequence, not as punishment (oh no, I am the one being punished here, folks). Is this what any of you would do?
I also want to mention that she goes to the nurses office every. single. day. at school. Her this hurts, her that hurts, someone looked at her crosseyed, yadda yadda yadda. I think she made herself throw up one day last week.
A cry for attention? Am I correct in not feeding into it? Would any of you do something different?
First it was her throat, then it was her stomach. Then it was because she thought she would throw up. Also she was tired. She had an answer for everything.
I offered pain killers, cough drops, a massage. Nope, she was JUST not feeling good.
OK, fine. You are sick? You keep your hot little butt in your room. No computer, no crafts, and no playtime with mom.
Well of course as the day goes on she is not that sick. If I had a car, believe you me, I would have carted her right to school. But part of me thinks this is better. She needs to understand that a day off from school is not a day off from life. I want her to not want to stay home.
Let me clarify by saying that in the past 4 weeks, she has had 4 days off (holidays, institute, etc) plus I have kept her home twice (once for not feeling well, once for a mental health day). On the day she was not feeling well, she slept all day. The other days, we did stuff together. It was like a free saturday. I think that she as expecting another fun day out of school with me if she stayed home today.
She has been constantly trying to manipulate me into playing with her. Or she comes in my room and lays on my bed (like she owns the place) and says "at least I am laying down" and I keep shooing her off to her room. She is also telling me that the REAL reason she wanted to stay home is because she is upset about her dad. She is presently sobbing uncontrollably in her room (and it sounds SOOOO forced). I have suggested writing a letter to him or drawing him a picture. No, she wants to be with me and talk about it. Which is great, I WANT her to talk about it. But after about 42 seconds she starts talking about how bored she is, and can't I just give her her Easter gifts early.
Yes, EASTER gifts! She just got a care package from a dear friend of mine yesterday, ocmplete with a toy dog, baseball caps, hair accessories, stickers, all kinds of goodies, and she is asking me for a toy.
So I keep making her go back to her room. And she is throwing things and screaming about how mean I am. ANd then telling me how sorry she is.
I am making her stay in her room as a consequence, not as punishment (oh no, I am the one being punished here, folks). Is this what any of you would do?
I also want to mention that she goes to the nurses office every. single. day. at school. Her this hurts, her that hurts, someone looked at her crosseyed, yadda yadda yadda. I think she made herself throw up one day last week.
A cry for attention? Am I correct in not feeding into it? Would any of you do something different?