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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 743985" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Drug use by the birtmother during her pregnancy doesnot cause mental illness. It causes brain damage of varying degrees. Two different things.</p><p></p><p>Is he on SSI? Does he have a case manager? Medicare? Housing Assistance? Often he will get help with rehab too. There are a lot of services for adults born drug exposed (and with other serious disabilities which are not their faults).</p><p></p><p>There is a community out there willing to help, to take the burden off of you, to find him a suitable place to heal and live. It should not be your responsibility. It is too large and you cant live and care for him forever. The responsibilty is best taken over by community supports. Not you. You dont have any way to truly help him.</p><p></p><p>So you have a choice too about your future too. Yourself or disability supports.. I took that choice and my son is safe and doing well. And this will continue after I am gone. He is a happy young man, drug free. Thriving. Housed in a good place. Good relationship with his case manager in case he needs help with things. SSI and his part time job pay his very low bills. Of course he can call us too. We are close.</p><p></p><p>Your other choices for YOU are to keep worrying about your son or to throw money at him which may not help long term and try to talk him into rehab. While you cry. Maybe he will listen better to a case manager about rehab and straightening out his life. I believe his life is very difficult and that its not all his fault and that its not YOUR fault at all. You did nothing but love him...he was possibly damaged in utero before you met him and he can still get help and live a full life. He just may need ongoing aid and could probably get it.</p><p></p><p>I wish you the very best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 743985, member: 1550"] Drug use by the birtmother during her pregnancy doesnot cause mental illness. It causes brain damage of varying degrees. Two different things. Is he on SSI? Does he have a case manager? Medicare? Housing Assistance? Often he will get help with rehab too. There are a lot of services for adults born drug exposed (and with other serious disabilities which are not their faults). There is a community out there willing to help, to take the burden off of you, to find him a suitable place to heal and live. It should not be your responsibility. It is too large and you cant live and care for him forever. The responsibilty is best taken over by community supports. Not you. You dont have any way to truly help him. So you have a choice too about your future too. Yourself or disability supports.. I took that choice and my son is safe and doing well. And this will continue after I am gone. He is a happy young man, drug free. Thriving. Housed in a good place. Good relationship with his case manager in case he needs help with things. SSI and his part time job pay his very low bills. Of course he can call us too. We are close. Your other choices for YOU are to keep worrying about your son or to throw money at him which may not help long term and try to talk him into rehab. While you cry. Maybe he will listen better to a case manager about rehab and straightening out his life. I believe his life is very difficult and that its not all his fault and that its not YOUR fault at all. You did nothing but love him...he was possibly damaged in utero before you met him and he can still get help and live a full life. He just may need ongoing aid and could probably get it. I wish you the very best. [/QUOTE]
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