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Am I Just Being Petty or is this Over the Line?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 617565" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>If she continues to try to manipulate.....I will cancel and that will be the end of it.</p><p></p><p>I don't mind letting Evan eat his cake, and easy child sort of now feels bad because she sees how trying to be kind to Evan got twisted. It is neither of their fault. easy child ought to get to see the boy enjoy her cake and he ought to get to enjoy it. Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>But I am just getting tired of covering Katie's backside for everything from school clothes to holidays. Quite frankly, if I'm doing all this stuff the kids might as well be living with me and not her. ugh</p><p></p><p>Don't get me wrong, I like doing for the kids. I also don't do much more for them than I do the rest of the grands.......other than school supplies and once in a while food......because otherwise she'd become totally dependent on me for absolutely everything. It's the way she twists it and makes it so she doesn't have to live up to her obligations as a parent that burns me up.</p><p></p><p>It's also this whole deal of Let's Promise the Kids the Moon and never deliver thing that has me wanting to pound her into the ground most of the time. Well, ok, there are LOTS of things that make me want to pound her into the ground, I just don't have time to write out the vent post. *sigh*</p><p></p><p>I told her yet again that sunday has nothing to do with Evan. DDD I understand your advice, but I have 7 other grandchildren who would love to have dinner and cake at Nana's house for their bdays. I can't really play favorites this way and I can't do all 8 grandkids bdays here or all I'll be doing is bdays every weekend. If I let this progress into a party for Evan, Darrin will be hurt because his birthday was right before xmas and I totally opted out of his party, although i was invited. Brandon's birthday is in 2 wks......and I think you see where I'm going here.</p><p></p><p>I don't tolerate manipulation. The reason lies in my past and it's not a line that is drawn in sand,<strong> it's drawn in stone</strong>. I won't switch the party over to Evan. In fact, everyone has been warned I'll be very displeased should they even hint about his birthday until they're about to leave when I give him the gift I bought him (which he will love as it's an add on to the xmas gift he went totally bonkers for). Katie might still attempt to push her luck when she arrives sunday, if so.......well, she'll be slapped down hard and fast.</p><p></p><p>Katie is not going to change. No. And if I even so much as hint I might be influenced by her amateur manipulation it will be never ending. I don't need the drama, she has enough without adding that to the mix.</p><p></p><p>I will not do another birthday dinner for Katie. She ruined it for herself.</p><p></p><p>As far as Evan is concerned.......he may be disappointed now, but come springtime he'll be on top of the world. Nana's got some special time planned for him doing things I know he loves to do but never gets the chance or things he'd love if only given the chance to do them. That child is in desperate need of some special time with an adult with some patience and many of the same interests. I will pull in other grands once in a while that share the same interests to make it more fun as his behavior calms down (excitement can send him nearly over the edge that way). Unfortunately, Alex has already been ruined for such special time due to his video game addiction.....and trust me, it's an addiction. I will try to include him when I can, but I don't see that happening often. Evan still has interests beyond video games and I want to encourage them as much as possible before Katie has a chance to get him totally absorbed into the darn games too. Plus it gives us a way to cultivate some closeness and develop a closer relationship. This sort of thing the other grands are used to. They all have special things they do with me sometimes alone and sometimes with a cousin or sibling that shares the interest. Aren't they fortunate their Nana has an exceptionally wide range of interests? lol <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 617565, member: 84"] If she continues to try to manipulate.....I will cancel and that will be the end of it. I don't mind letting Evan eat his cake, and easy child sort of now feels bad because she sees how trying to be kind to Evan got twisted. It is neither of their fault. easy child ought to get to see the boy enjoy her cake and he ought to get to enjoy it. Know what I mean?? But I am just getting tired of covering Katie's backside for everything from school clothes to holidays. Quite frankly, if I'm doing all this stuff the kids might as well be living with me and not her. ugh Don't get me wrong, I like doing for the kids. I also don't do much more for them than I do the rest of the grands.......other than school supplies and once in a while food......because otherwise she'd become totally dependent on me for absolutely everything. It's the way she twists it and makes it so she doesn't have to live up to her obligations as a parent that burns me up. It's also this whole deal of Let's Promise the Kids the Moon and never deliver thing that has me wanting to pound her into the ground most of the time. Well, ok, there are LOTS of things that make me want to pound her into the ground, I just don't have time to write out the vent post. *sigh* I told her yet again that sunday has nothing to do with Evan. DDD I understand your advice, but I have 7 other grandchildren who would love to have dinner and cake at Nana's house for their bdays. I can't really play favorites this way and I can't do all 8 grandkids bdays here or all I'll be doing is bdays every weekend. If I let this progress into a party for Evan, Darrin will be hurt because his birthday was right before xmas and I totally opted out of his party, although i was invited. Brandon's birthday is in 2 wks......and I think you see where I'm going here. I don't tolerate manipulation. The reason lies in my past and it's not a line that is drawn in sand,[B] it's drawn in stone[/B]. I won't switch the party over to Evan. In fact, everyone has been warned I'll be very displeased should they even hint about his birthday until they're about to leave when I give him the gift I bought him (which he will love as it's an add on to the xmas gift he went totally bonkers for). Katie might still attempt to push her luck when she arrives sunday, if so.......well, she'll be slapped down hard and fast. Katie is not going to change. No. And if I even so much as hint I might be influenced by her amateur manipulation it will be never ending. I don't need the drama, she has enough without adding that to the mix. I will not do another birthday dinner for Katie. She ruined it for herself. As far as Evan is concerned.......he may be disappointed now, but come springtime he'll be on top of the world. Nana's got some special time planned for him doing things I know he loves to do but never gets the chance or things he'd love if only given the chance to do them. That child is in desperate need of some special time with an adult with some patience and many of the same interests. I will pull in other grands once in a while that share the same interests to make it more fun as his behavior calms down (excitement can send him nearly over the edge that way). Unfortunately, Alex has already been ruined for such special time due to his video game addiction.....and trust me, it's an addiction. I will try to include him when I can, but I don't see that happening often. Evan still has interests beyond video games and I want to encourage them as much as possible before Katie has a chance to get him totally absorbed into the darn games too. Plus it gives us a way to cultivate some closeness and develop a closer relationship. This sort of thing the other grands are used to. They all have special things they do with me sometimes alone and sometimes with a cousin or sibling that shares the interest. Aren't they fortunate their Nana has an exceptionally wide range of interests? lol ;) [/QUOTE]
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