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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 334584" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I agree. I'm a long-term pain patient and although I know I would have some withdrawal issues if I stopped taking the pain medications, I know it's not addiction because I take it primarily for pain. I actually hate any muscle-weakness/fatigue feeling and will choose to keep some pain noticeable, rather than be completely pain free but risk sedation.</p><p></p><p>On pain medications - I function. Off pain medications - I can't move and I'm useless to anybody.</p><p></p><p>But from what you describe with this cousin, it sounds like she is simply waiting to die, she's not trying to improve her life or function to any extent. It'd as if she's taking pain medications to alleviate boredom, as much as anything. Some patients will do this, and also constantly compare their problems with other people's, as if it's a competition. "My pain must be a lot worse than yours, because I take more/stronger pain medications than you do," is something I had unfortunately heard. It's not meant to be a competition. Besides, how we each deal with pain is very different. mother in law cannot take opiate medications at all. They cause vomiting in her. So she went through recovery from open heart surgery (bypass surgery) taking nothing stronger than paracetamol!</p><p>She had a fall yesterday, we were concerned it was a broken hip. The ambulance officers wanted to give her the whistle plus a pethidine injection and were still concerned it might not be enough. She only wanted one paracetamol tablet. They compromised and got her to take a second one. She said, "They put me to sleep..."</p><p></p><p>And here I am, finding that two combined paracetamol/codeine tabs barely touch my pain, on top of my other medications! I am not saying my pain is worse than hers was yesterday. No way could it be. But she can manage her pain more easily (thank goodness for her).</p><p></p><p>Is your cousin a pain competitor? Or is she genuinely in pain and having it managed appropriately?</p><p></p><p>I had an aunt who was an actress and a drama queen. When she went into a nursing home she made their lives a misery, she was always very demanding and would milk every opportunity for sympathy and attention. But I remember when she was well, she was a wonderful person to chat to. But the signs were always there - she thrived on attention. When illness became part of her world, she used that too, like every other facet of her life.</p><p></p><p>Sad, really.</p><p></p><p>If only your cousin could find a positive interest and some attention in another way, that could encourage her to get active again.</p><p></p><p>As for the metaphorical slap in the face after your make-over - praise from that pair would also be meaningless. It's how YOU feel about yourself that matters.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 334584, member: 1991"] I agree. I'm a long-term pain patient and although I know I would have some withdrawal issues if I stopped taking the pain medications, I know it's not addiction because I take it primarily for pain. I actually hate any muscle-weakness/fatigue feeling and will choose to keep some pain noticeable, rather than be completely pain free but risk sedation. On pain medications - I function. Off pain medications - I can't move and I'm useless to anybody. But from what you describe with this cousin, it sounds like she is simply waiting to die, she's not trying to improve her life or function to any extent. It'd as if she's taking pain medications to alleviate boredom, as much as anything. Some patients will do this, and also constantly compare their problems with other people's, as if it's a competition. "My pain must be a lot worse than yours, because I take more/stronger pain medications than you do," is something I had unfortunately heard. It's not meant to be a competition. Besides, how we each deal with pain is very different. mother in law cannot take opiate medications at all. They cause vomiting in her. So she went through recovery from open heart surgery (bypass surgery) taking nothing stronger than paracetamol! She had a fall yesterday, we were concerned it was a broken hip. The ambulance officers wanted to give her the whistle plus a pethidine injection and were still concerned it might not be enough. She only wanted one paracetamol tablet. They compromised and got her to take a second one. She said, "They put me to sleep..." And here I am, finding that two combined paracetamol/codeine tabs barely touch my pain, on top of my other medications! I am not saying my pain is worse than hers was yesterday. No way could it be. But she can manage her pain more easily (thank goodness for her). Is your cousin a pain competitor? Or is she genuinely in pain and having it managed appropriately? I had an aunt who was an actress and a drama queen. When she went into a nursing home she made their lives a misery, she was always very demanding and would milk every opportunity for sympathy and attention. But I remember when she was well, she was a wonderful person to chat to. But the signs were always there - she thrived on attention. When illness became part of her world, she used that too, like every other facet of her life. Sad, really. If only your cousin could find a positive interest and some attention in another way, that could encourage her to get active again. As for the metaphorical slap in the face after your make-over - praise from that pair would also be meaningless. It's how YOU feel about yourself that matters. Marg [/QUOTE]
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