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Am I steering my own, true course or heading for the rocks?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 743269" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Agree with SWOT here! N's wife has been WONDERFUL for him - but he was already more than halfway there. It would not have worked if he were not already well on his way along the path on his own. And even then, there were rocky moments in the beginning. They rushed into it too fast. They seem very strong now together and N is working hard to stay on the path. But my daughter in law is very strong. She definitely takes a leading role in the family life and holds high expectations for N. I know she would not put up with him if he fell off the wagon or acted in a way that put the boys at risk. And he knows it - so yes, there is extra incentive for him. But it has to be something they want and are committed to anyway. </p><p></p><p>C's relationships have been disastrous because he is not ready. And when they ended it set him back a long way each time. I do not want to see him in a relationship until I am certain he is clean, has his temper problems under control and is strong enough to face disappointment if it doesn't end well. </p><p></p><p>I am thrilled to have my daughter in law in my life and my grandsons, my older grandson she brought with her into the marriage and the little one they have together. We've established a strong relationship outside of my relationship with N. She calls me her "American Mama". If N EVER does anything to mess this up, I will be heartbroken - and I think he knows that, too! </p><p></p><p>I hope J finds someone, too ... when he's ready for it. I think he will. He is making steps forward, in his own way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 743269, member: 23349"] Agree with SWOT here! N's wife has been WONDERFUL for him - but he was already more than halfway there. It would not have worked if he were not already well on his way along the path on his own. And even then, there were rocky moments in the beginning. They rushed into it too fast. They seem very strong now together and N is working hard to stay on the path. But my daughter in law is very strong. She definitely takes a leading role in the family life and holds high expectations for N. I know she would not put up with him if he fell off the wagon or acted in a way that put the boys at risk. And he knows it - so yes, there is extra incentive for him. But it has to be something they want and are committed to anyway. C's relationships have been disastrous because he is not ready. And when they ended it set him back a long way each time. I do not want to see him in a relationship until I am certain he is clean, has his temper problems under control and is strong enough to face disappointment if it doesn't end well. I am thrilled to have my daughter in law in my life and my grandsons, my older grandson she brought with her into the marriage and the little one they have together. We've established a strong relationship outside of my relationship with N. She calls me her "American Mama". If N EVER does anything to mess this up, I will be heartbroken - and I think he knows that, too! I hope J finds someone, too ... when he's ready for it. I think he will. He is making steps forward, in his own way. [/QUOTE]
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