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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 360000" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>Marg - I'm actively working with her on the whole sexuality now as I see it I'm not going to be able to stop her what so ever and I'm able to be extremely open with my oldest and it works/worked well (however she is not preoccupied in anyway like this one either). I want to be sure this difficult child won't be pregnant at a young age or getting an STD because she is toooooo interested in sexual things and boys in general. She has been since she was a little girl as a matter of fact. Like I said, all things sexual. I've not ruled out the BiPolar (BP) because there is such a strong family history of it that it just can't be ruled out but there is all this other stuff going on that also comes into play so I know there can be multiple things here. Problem is, she shuts down/off and refuses to listen to anything and just doesn't get anything at all (or so it appears) in general towards all things, like the stranger danger and being so forward, learning things she needs to, etc. In her mind, the way it works, I can do what I want. Period. Female hygenien?ugh! She will not properly dispose of things, we find papers all over the place nor items that should be wrapped up - openly just splayed about. It's just gross! The things she is focused on, shaving her legs like crazy. It's funny. She will steal her sisters razor and shaving cream to do so even. She has bad acne. We have bought her all the products to help with it and taught her how she must properly care for her face, she refuses to do so. She will do it when she feels like it. Showers, she'll take them when she feels like it otherwise it's a fight. She wants to dress revealing so I make sure to buy clothes that aren't. Even then, she will end up wearing maybe 2-3 outfits out of all her clothes over and over again rather then all the clothes she has going to waste and it's not a sensory thing. She just says "I don't like them" when she liked them when they were bought.</p><p></p><p>I don't know about depression. I mean she never "seems" depressed in general but I suppose she could be. She doesn't display anything like it other then anger if she is and anger is often triggered effect if so. She is laughing most often (inapparopriately) and giggly and smiling. It's eery. She does seem to live in a fantasy/unrealistic world too. We've said this for years now about her. The way she thinks is just not normal for the most part as if she is in charge and can control everything, literally. That if we all weren't here everything would be fine (her words). Ooookay? And how would you support yourself?? No answer, she just thinks she'd be able to live magically.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't say her lies are always well thought out. I guess sometimes they are? I'm not sure. Mostly they aren't she just sticks to it very strongly even once she is caught dead to rights that she is lied and can be proven she has lied (shown the proof). For example, an item is found in her room that she has stolen, she will say she didn't steal it her brother did and he put it there. We known fact he didn't do it (due to timing and him not even being around at time). She will swear he did, carry on, throw a tantrum, scream bloody murder (literally like someone is killing her) why won't we believe her, we never believe her, etc..</p><p></p><p>The screaming (as described above) is something she does often. Sometimes if she is frustrated or angry in general at something she will stand there and just scream like that at the top of her lungs period! She has a hard time using her words when frustrated it appears to us. Also, when she wants something, often she won't tell us, she has to "show us". I don't know why, she just does. She gets really angry with us over that. We say just tell us what you want. She will say I can't. And wants us to come with us so she can show us what ever it is in the closet or refrigerator or whatever. This issue often comes up over food. The other thing with food, ever single day is that she never knows what she wants if we don't say we are having such and such (which she always balks at if we do say). So she must have the closet opened to "see" what is in there. She knows what is in that closet through and through yet she must "see" it every single time. She says she forgets but if we don't know where something is sometime, she sure as heck knows <em>exactly </em>where it is and will point it out. It's really really strange!</p><p></p><p>I figure if I keep posting here with how she is, all the collective heads here will help with their insights and maybe it will help me help her towards what might be going on and when I do move forward towards another doctor/location I will be on better footing this time to act. This has been my giant puzzle that I have not been able to solve or make headway on now for over 3 years. I figured out how to help older and younger difficult child, I can't seem to help her much and it bugs me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 360000, member: 455"] Marg - I'm actively working with her on the whole sexuality now as I see it I'm not going to be able to stop her what so ever and I'm able to be extremely open with my oldest and it works/worked well (however she is not preoccupied in anyway like this one either). I want to be sure this difficult child won't be pregnant at a young age or getting an STD because she is toooooo interested in sexual things and boys in general. She has been since she was a little girl as a matter of fact. Like I said, all things sexual. I've not ruled out the BiPolar (BP) because there is such a strong family history of it that it just can't be ruled out but there is all this other stuff going on that also comes into play so I know there can be multiple things here. Problem is, she shuts down/off and refuses to listen to anything and just doesn't get anything at all (or so it appears) in general towards all things, like the stranger danger and being so forward, learning things she needs to, etc. In her mind, the way it works, I can do what I want. Period. Female hygenien?ugh! She will not properly dispose of things, we find papers all over the place nor items that should be wrapped up - openly just splayed about. It's just gross! The things she is focused on, shaving her legs like crazy. It's funny. She will steal her sisters razor and shaving cream to do so even. She has bad acne. We have bought her all the products to help with it and taught her how she must properly care for her face, she refuses to do so. She will do it when she feels like it. Showers, she'll take them when she feels like it otherwise it's a fight. She wants to dress revealing so I make sure to buy clothes that aren't. Even then, she will end up wearing maybe 2-3 outfits out of all her clothes over and over again rather then all the clothes she has going to waste and it's not a sensory thing. She just says "I don't like them" when she liked them when they were bought. I don't know about depression. I mean she never "seems" depressed in general but I suppose she could be. She doesn't display anything like it other then anger if she is and anger is often triggered effect if so. She is laughing most often (inapparopriately) and giggly and smiling. It's eery. She does seem to live in a fantasy/unrealistic world too. We've said this for years now about her. The way she thinks is just not normal for the most part as if she is in charge and can control everything, literally. That if we all weren't here everything would be fine (her words). Ooookay? And how would you support yourself?? No answer, she just thinks she'd be able to live magically. I wouldn't say her lies are always well thought out. I guess sometimes they are? I'm not sure. Mostly they aren't she just sticks to it very strongly even once she is caught dead to rights that she is lied and can be proven she has lied (shown the proof). For example, an item is found in her room that she has stolen, she will say she didn't steal it her brother did and he put it there. We known fact he didn't do it (due to timing and him not even being around at time). She will swear he did, carry on, throw a tantrum, scream bloody murder (literally like someone is killing her) why won't we believe her, we never believe her, etc.. The screaming (as described above) is something she does often. Sometimes if she is frustrated or angry in general at something she will stand there and just scream like that at the top of her lungs period! She has a hard time using her words when frustrated it appears to us. Also, when she wants something, often she won't tell us, she has to "show us". I don't know why, she just does. She gets really angry with us over that. We say just tell us what you want. She will say I can't. And wants us to come with us so she can show us what ever it is in the closet or refrigerator or whatever. This issue often comes up over food. The other thing with food, ever single day is that she never knows what she wants if we don't say we are having such and such (which she always balks at if we do say). So she must have the closet opened to "see" what is in there. She knows what is in that closet through and through yet she must "see" it every single time. She says she forgets but if we don't know where something is sometime, she sure as heck knows [I]exactly [/I]where it is and will point it out. It's really really strange! I figure if I keep posting here with how she is, all the collective heads here will help with their insights and maybe it will help me help her towards what might be going on and when I do move forward towards another doctor/location I will be on better footing this time to act. This has been my giant puzzle that I have not been able to solve or make headway on now for over 3 years. I figured out how to help older and younger difficult child, I can't seem to help her much and it bugs me. [/QUOTE]
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