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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 670988" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Albatross,</p><p></p><p>Glad you are back. And that you have been here all along.</p><p></p><p>I want to say one thing and one thing only: All of us are making this up as we go along. It would be wrong if we did it any other way.</p><p></p><p>We are not writing a theory. We are each of us writing our lives, and doing what we can so that our kids do so, too.</p><p></p><p>I would hope I would do what you did.</p><p></p><p>You wanted to act from strength and hope, your own and your child's. You balanced that with a realistic look at the potential for change, and the costs to all. You set your conditions. And your expectations.</p><p></p><p>Who is it that says we have to look at our own faces in the mirror? Cedar, I think.</p><p></p><p>Your son is quite young. To me, he deserves chances--if he has been doing his part. Not 100 percent, but more hits than misses.</p><p></p><p>Those of us who are "learners" on this forum do not learn from ambivalence and inconsistency, we learn from shoulds.</p><p></p><p>Margaret Thatcher told I think it was George Bush, "don't go wobbly, George." I forget the circumstance. But it couldn't have been more difficult than the battles we face as parents.</p><p></p><p>If you told us from the stance of "should" I know I for one heard it as, "don't go wobbly, Copa." And it made all of the difference.</p><p></p><p>Thank you, Albatross</p><p></p><p>PS I looked up the quote which Dick Cheney disputes. Whatever. It was from 1990 when Iraq invaded Kuwait. The exact quote, true or not: "Remember, George, this is no time to go wobbly."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 670988, member: 18958"] Hi Albatross, Glad you are back. And that you have been here all along. I want to say one thing and one thing only: All of us are making this up as we go along. It would be wrong if we did it any other way. We are not writing a theory. We are each of us writing our lives, and doing what we can so that our kids do so, too. I would hope I would do what you did. You wanted to act from strength and hope, your own and your child's. You balanced that with a realistic look at the potential for change, and the costs to all. You set your conditions. And your expectations. Who is it that says we have to look at our own faces in the mirror? Cedar, I think. Your son is quite young. To me, he deserves chances--if he has been doing his part. Not 100 percent, but more hits than misses. Those of us who are "learners" on this forum do not learn from ambivalence and inconsistency, we learn from shoulds. Margaret Thatcher told I think it was George Bush, "don't go wobbly, George." I forget the circumstance. But it couldn't have been more difficult than the battles we face as parents. If you told us from the stance of "should" I know I for one heard it as, "don't go wobbly, Copa." And it made all of the difference. Thank you, Albatross PS I looked up the quote which Dick Cheney disputes. Whatever. It was from 1990 when Iraq invaded Kuwait. The exact quote, true or not: "Remember, George, this is no time to go wobbly." [/QUOTE]
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