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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 561648" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>OMG. Thank you very much, those of you who answered. I asked because...after what happened to klmno's son, I wondered if I even sounded like I cared. It is on my mind so much...I *do* care, but I sort of lack the ability to know if what I say expresses this. And while I'm sure klmno has other things on her mind, it is important to me that she know how devastating this is to me. And how much I hurt for her. That's why I thought of it. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes I think that rather than borderline personality disorder, I really have Aspergers...because although I have had some borderline traits, I'm not and never was nearly as extreme as most with borderline. I seem to be able to learn and grow from it, but yet I am emotionally labile and I did used to act out from oversensitivity and inability to deal with frustration. Sound Aspie? At my age it doesn't matter w hat I am, but I do care so much for all of you that I want to make sure I am being appropriate and I can't judge that on my own all the time. I am such a literal thinker that I type what my mind is telling me and it is usually factual rather than emotional. Yes, I can write novels, but that's different. I do have a good imagination and I can express somebody else feeling the appropriate emotion, such as a character in a book. I just can't do it myself or when in the real world or when giving my two cents. Or trying to express my caring.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I have had trouble connecting with friends all my life. I don't really want to know most people, then I get lonely because I want to, say, be invited to that party that I'd never attend...lolol. And I avoid people a lot because I don't know how to "play the game." Sometimes I *really, really, really* connect with somebody and that's always a surprise and great! I tend to want to be with that person all the time, rather than a group though. Sadly, my very bestest friend on earth died of cancer at age fifty. Nobody can ever replace her. She "got" me and we were really there for each other all the time. I would love to find another "best best friend" but it's hard for me to find any friends. And if I am with people for too long, I need to escape to my house to regroup! That was true even with my best friend! After a few hours together, I would feel the need to get away. Strange, huh? Throw face blindness into the mix (look up prosopagnosia in your google search) you have a receipe for social disaster...lol. People come up to me and I don't even know who I'm talking to half the time...lol. Yet, although I knew that wasn't normal although I'd been that way all my life, until about ten years ago I didn't realize that I wasn't the only person with face blindness. And I didn't know what it was. Just knew that it was embarassing and that it kept me from enjoying movies. I mean, it's hard to enjoy a movie when you can't remember what the good guy looks like vs. the bad guy...and it gets too hard to follow and try to guess...blah, blah, blah. </p><p></p><p>In case anyone cares, here is a link about face blindness. It is the link that told me about why I can't recognize a lot of people that I should and why I can't follow a movie! Lots of Aspies have this trait (remember, though, I have never been diagnosed an Aspie, just with traits). For the record, I am the face blind person who was born that way and I also can't recognize my own car, other objects, and can't find my way around the block. I have compensatory methods, but they tire me out because I need so many so often. </p><p></p><p><a href="http://prosopagnosiaresearch.org/index/information" target="_blank">http://prosopagnosiaresearch.org/index/information</a></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Well, thanks for the feedback. I needed it...lol. Love ya all!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 561648, member: 1550"] OMG. Thank you very much, those of you who answered. I asked because...after what happened to klmno's son, I wondered if I even sounded like I cared. It is on my mind so much...I *do* care, but I sort of lack the ability to know if what I say expresses this. And while I'm sure klmno has other things on her mind, it is important to me that she know how devastating this is to me. And how much I hurt for her. That's why I thought of it. Sometimes I think that rather than borderline personality disorder, I really have Aspergers...because although I have had some borderline traits, I'm not and never was nearly as extreme as most with borderline. I seem to be able to learn and grow from it, but yet I am emotionally labile and I did used to act out from oversensitivity and inability to deal with frustration. Sound Aspie? At my age it doesn't matter w hat I am, but I do care so much for all of you that I want to make sure I am being appropriate and I can't judge that on my own all the time. I am such a literal thinker that I type what my mind is telling me and it is usually factual rather than emotional. Yes, I can write novels, but that's different. I do have a good imagination and I can express somebody else feeling the appropriate emotion, such as a character in a book. I just can't do it myself or when in the real world or when giving my two cents. Or trying to express my caring. I have had trouble connecting with friends all my life. I don't really want to know most people, then I get lonely because I want to, say, be invited to that party that I'd never attend...lolol. And I avoid people a lot because I don't know how to "play the game." Sometimes I *really, really, really* connect with somebody and that's always a surprise and great! I tend to want to be with that person all the time, rather than a group though. Sadly, my very bestest friend on earth died of cancer at age fifty. Nobody can ever replace her. She "got" me and we were really there for each other all the time. I would love to find another "best best friend" but it's hard for me to find any friends. And if I am with people for too long, I need to escape to my house to regroup! That was true even with my best friend! After a few hours together, I would feel the need to get away. Strange, huh? Throw face blindness into the mix (look up prosopagnosia in your google search) you have a receipe for social disaster...lol. People come up to me and I don't even know who I'm talking to half the time...lol. Yet, although I knew that wasn't normal although I'd been that way all my life, until about ten years ago I didn't realize that I wasn't the only person with face blindness. And I didn't know what it was. Just knew that it was embarassing and that it kept me from enjoying movies. I mean, it's hard to enjoy a movie when you can't remember what the good guy looks like vs. the bad guy...and it gets too hard to follow and try to guess...blah, blah, blah. In case anyone cares, here is a link about face blindness. It is the link that told me about why I can't recognize a lot of people that I should and why I can't follow a movie! Lots of Aspies have this trait (remember, though, I have never been diagnosed an Aspie, just with traits). For the record, I am the face blind person who was born that way and I also can't recognize my own car, other objects, and can't find my way around the block. I have compensatory methods, but they tire me out because I need so many so often. [url]http://prosopagnosiaresearch.org/index/information[/url] Well, thanks for the feedback. I needed it...lol. Love ya all! [/QUOTE]
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