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An Ugly Vent...B4..I Explode or Implode!
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 109474" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I am so sorry DDD and I do understand where you are comming from but my gut tells me that this will continue as long as you let it. If you stop giving her the money then yes, maybe the kids will suffer some but she will be forced to find another way of doing things. It might involve DSS but sometimes they are the only option. I have a friend (also in Florida) Whose adopted daughter is much like your GFGmom though much younger (only 25) She has already had three children with three different fathers. My friend has full custody of the first two but refused to take the third one because she figured there would always be yet another one and she had to draw the line somewhere. She stopped giving her daughter money a couple of years ago but did buy clothes and food for the third child. Unfortunately once the money stopped comming in the daughter stopped calling on my friend. It is so sad but my friend has learned to concentrate on the two grandchildren she has taken in and provides a wonderful home and a good life to them. And while her heart breaiks for the other grandchild she knows she cannot take him. She does notify DSS whenever she hears that her daughter has moved to keep them involved and looking out for the grandchild but she has no more contact with her adopted daughter.</p><p>This was so very hard for her and it took much therapy and prayers and suppport for her to be able to detach but she had to.</p><p>As it is her husband will have to work till he dies to be able to provide for the family he now has. They did not deserve this. They are good people who have had much tragedy in their lives (Their biological son dropped deat at age 13 from a brain anuresim after they had adopted this daughter from foster care) but they go on and they try to find the joy in life in spite of all the trials. I tell you their story so you know that you are not alone. Maybe you can find some strength in that. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 109474, member: 2315"] I am so sorry DDD and I do understand where you are comming from but my gut tells me that this will continue as long as you let it. If you stop giving her the money then yes, maybe the kids will suffer some but she will be forced to find another way of doing things. It might involve DSS but sometimes they are the only option. I have a friend (also in Florida) Whose adopted daughter is much like your GFGmom though much younger (only 25) She has already had three children with three different fathers. My friend has full custody of the first two but refused to take the third one because she figured there would always be yet another one and she had to draw the line somewhere. She stopped giving her daughter money a couple of years ago but did buy clothes and food for the third child. Unfortunately once the money stopped comming in the daughter stopped calling on my friend. It is so sad but my friend has learned to concentrate on the two grandchildren she has taken in and provides a wonderful home and a good life to them. And while her heart breaiks for the other grandchild she knows she cannot take him. She does notify DSS whenever she hears that her daughter has moved to keep them involved and looking out for the grandchild but she has no more contact with her adopted daughter. This was so very hard for her and it took much therapy and prayers and suppport for her to be able to detach but she had to. As it is her husband will have to work till he dies to be able to provide for the family he now has. They did not deserve this. They are good people who have had much tragedy in their lives (Their biological son dropped deat at age 13 from a brain anuresim after they had adopted this daughter from foster care) but they go on and they try to find the joy in life in spite of all the trials. I tell you their story so you know that you are not alone. Maybe you can find some strength in that. -RM [/QUOTE]
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