Hello, it's been about 2 1/2 months since I last posted. I have been lurking from time to time. Our J has been off of drugs and booze for a little over 6 months. She has been diligently making her AA meetings and keeping in touch with her sponsor, working the program. She has a job, 20 hours/week presently and to go to full time in a couple of weeks. She went with us on our trip for a family reunion recently and there were no confrontations or incidents, she was very good with her relatives and they with her. It really seems that there is a new attitude. It is different than the last time that she managed to stay off the drugs for this long; then, you could see that there was no fundamental change but now it feels like there is. She has a long ways to go yet but I'm more encouraged than I've been in a very long time. Sorry I haven't contributed much here after receiving so much benefit from you all. My heart goes out to you all who are going through bad times right now (I am aware of some of the situations, through lurking). Wish I could be more help. The people on this forum are the greatest and you are all in my prayers.