V is just a pain since school started again. Seriously, everything is no or negative. He does not even take a minute to think. Just no right a way, even when the question is addressed to someone else. He gets upset over everything. He is like that with myself, husband and also Partner. I actually feel bad for Partner. What am I supposed to tell him? I don't even know what to do about it myself. V does not have constent big meltdowns (although he has those as well), but just a bunch of negativity that will drive evryone bunkers. Nothing is ever right and he will not stop complaining for us to "fix it" or just obey his every demands. It's like a twisted piece of tape on your finger, you can shake your hand all you want... you just can't get rid of it. For the big meltdowns, I've been using the advised techniques "I'm not going to get -------, but I will be fine" and if he does say it, big hugs and small stiker. At least, I can stop those with this method without yelling (that's nice!). The little BS, I don't know what to do. It is all day long and it is really wearing on me. Now, I know no matter what I cook, I wil get " Ooh, that's gross. I don't like it". No matter how nice Partner is, he will always play wrong according to V. It is just non stop. How do you deal with it? Any tips? husband thinks V is not kept busy/thinking enough at school and we pay for it at home. When there is no school and he goes to private tutoring for a couple hours, he is SO much nicer. The school is a big trigger for him. husband believes V's brain is iddle because the school is just not stimulating enough. At home, we always do stuff. Of course, lots of free play, but the boys are asked to help fix the equiments with their Dad, we do science experiments, they help around the house, do yard work, etc. I think husband's theory holds some water, but what do I do about it??? We see the therapist tomorrow, but she never sees him at home, only at school. If V keeps that same awful patern, he will turn us into crazy people. Any advise welcome!