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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 631077" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Oh My God! The ups and the downs of this kid!</p><p> </p><p>Two days - TWO - he'd been looking for work. I get a call at noon yesterday - and he is in a <em>STATE</em>. He can't get the Kmart website to work. His friend I <em>thought</em> was no longer his friend has been blowing up his phone, "come here and hang - take me job hunting", the craigslist place didn't answer the phone, etc., etc., etc.</p><p> </p><p>He has no money, he has no job, he has no friends, he has nothing to do, he has no car, he has no life, everything is terrible, nothing is ever right, he has no property, people in the college town lied to him because he was supposed to stay with them and then they wouldn't let him and they broke his stuff (specifically a $120 bong <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> ) Everyone wants something from him, he's being pulling and pushed and it's awful and horrible and all he wants is for everything to go away and stop (not in an "I don't want to live" way - he specified).</p><p> </p><p>An HOUR - an entire hour of this. He apparently punched his door again and his hand was bleeding. I - again - suggested he see a therapist. Yeah - that doesn't go over well. I tell him he needs to learn new ways to deal with his emotions. He says he has ways (driving around and hanging out and spending money and whatever) and he can't do that. I say, "Well perhaps you'd learn OTHER ways." I suggested he needs to deal with what can change - the money and job, which also fixes the car problem - and stop stressing about what he can't change. Whatever. I finally told him I had a conference call, just to get him off the phone.</p><p> </p><p>10 minutes later he texts me he has a job interview today at 5 p.m.</p><p>So of course all is well and he's just fine after that.</p><p> </p><p>I, however, can't function after that much stress. Even after he was off the phone and got the job interview I spent the REST of my work day searching the darn internet trying to figure out what company this is. He said, but I couldn't find it. After exhaustive sleuthing, I don't think it's a job he'll want. I found one place on-line talking about the company I think it is and it is very fly-by-night and sells vacuums door to door and we won't let him have the car for that - also they have a rep for not paying. BUT - since I'm not 100% sure and if they have him doing office work instead of sales, it might be okay - I told him he could use the car for the interview (it's in another town, but they have an office here.)</p><p> </p><p>Yes, I know I should not have spent my time looking for this place. He comes by some of his obsessive nature honestly.</p><p> </p><p>So I told him last night - "Do NOT do this again. Do NOT call me when you are all upset. Deal with it. I can't function after one of these calls and I won't lose my job over you. P.s. Look at your knuckles - THAT is why I keep suggesting therapy. Emotionally healthy people do not handle things like this. We have six free visits through work and good health insurance. If you ever want to change, let me know."</p><p> </p><p>But I am resolved to NOT take these calls anymore. I can't turn off my phone - but I can let it go to voice mail.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 631077, member: 17309"] Oh My God! The ups and the downs of this kid! Two days - TWO - he'd been looking for work. I get a call at noon yesterday - and he is in a [I]STATE[/I]. He can't get the Kmart website to work. His friend I [I]thought[/I] was no longer his friend has been blowing up his phone, "come here and hang - take me job hunting", the craigslist place didn't answer the phone, etc., etc., etc. He has no money, he has no job, he has no friends, he has nothing to do, he has no car, he has no life, everything is terrible, nothing is ever right, he has no property, people in the college town lied to him because he was supposed to stay with them and then they wouldn't let him and they broke his stuff (specifically a $120 bong :mad: ) Everyone wants something from him, he's being pulling and pushed and it's awful and horrible and all he wants is for everything to go away and stop (not in an "I don't want to live" way - he specified). An HOUR - an entire hour of this. He apparently punched his door again and his hand was bleeding. I - again - suggested he see a therapist. Yeah - that doesn't go over well. I tell him he needs to learn new ways to deal with his emotions. He says he has ways (driving around and hanging out and spending money and whatever) and he can't do that. I say, "Well perhaps you'd learn OTHER ways." I suggested he needs to deal with what can change - the money and job, which also fixes the car problem - and stop stressing about what he can't change. Whatever. I finally told him I had a conference call, just to get him off the phone. 10 minutes later he texts me he has a job interview today at 5 p.m. So of course all is well and he's just fine after that. I, however, can't function after that much stress. Even after he was off the phone and got the job interview I spent the REST of my work day searching the darn internet trying to figure out what company this is. He said, but I couldn't find it. After exhaustive sleuthing, I don't think it's a job he'll want. I found one place on-line talking about the company I think it is and it is very fly-by-night and sells vacuums door to door and we won't let him have the car for that - also they have a rep for not paying. BUT - since I'm not 100% sure and if they have him doing office work instead of sales, it might be okay - I told him he could use the car for the interview (it's in another town, but they have an office here.) Yes, I know I should not have spent my time looking for this place. He comes by some of his obsessive nature honestly. So I told him last night - "Do NOT do this again. Do NOT call me when you are all upset. Deal with it. I can't function after one of these calls and I won't lose my job over you. P.s. Look at your knuckles - THAT is why I keep suggesting therapy. Emotionally healthy people do not handle things like this. We have six free visits through work and good health insurance. If you ever want to change, let me know." But I am resolved to NOT take these calls anymore. I can't turn off my phone - but I can let it go to voice mail. [/QUOTE]
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