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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 631136" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Tish, you are so right about this. We talked about this on another thread. I think the essence int he end was...of course you can change your stand. The phrasing was "I've thought more about this and in light of (recent events, your behavior, what you said yestarday, what you did yestarday, how you behaved, your recent choices, WHATEVER applies) I've reconsidered and will not be doing X (giving you money, paying your car insurance, letting you stay...whatever).</p><p></p><p>I like the option of alerting them that after due consideration we find ourselves in a different place.</p><p></p><p>I too am guilty of thinking that silent modelling will teach people..that is why I do the dishes alone every night after making dinner for my boys alone every night....I have the CRAZY IDEA THAT THEY WILL LOOK up and say...gee, that ain't right.</p><p></p><p>They won't do that.</p><p></p><p>And they are even easy child's!</p><p></p><p>So silent modelling doesn't really work well, and it doesn't work at all with difficult child's. I don't think just plan going back on your promises feels good to us but the "in light of recent events" approach bridges that gap.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 631136, member: 17269"] Tish, you are so right about this. We talked about this on another thread. I think the essence int he end was...of course you can change your stand. The phrasing was "I've thought more about this and in light of (recent events, your behavior, what you said yestarday, what you did yestarday, how you behaved, your recent choices, WHATEVER applies) I've reconsidered and will not be doing X (giving you money, paying your car insurance, letting you stay...whatever). I like the option of alerting them that after due consideration we find ourselves in a different place. I too am guilty of thinking that silent modelling will teach people..that is why I do the dishes alone every night after making dinner for my boys alone every night....I have the CRAZY IDEA THAT THEY WILL LOOK up and say...gee, that ain't right. They won't do that. And they are even easy child's! So silent modelling doesn't really work well, and it doesn't work at all with difficult child's. I don't think just plan going back on your promises feels good to us but the "in light of recent events" approach bridges that gap. Echo [/QUOTE]
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