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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 313724" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>Sorry to hear about all the drama. Unfortunately it also sounds familiar from difficult child 1's time with us. Wish I could promise you that it's going to get better soon.</p><p></p><p>I'm assuming you live somewhere other than the US since you talk about being unable to get psychiatric testing done. Here, unless you've been down this road already, you can ask for (and often get) some testing done by the schools.</p><p></p><p>I agree with others who have talked about poor reality testing playing a part making it hard to be sure what she does or doesn't believe to be true. Asking the psychiatrist specifically about this may be helpful.</p><p></p><p>I'm late to the game and don't have time to go back too far in your posts. So forgive me if I'm going over old ground but has a Borderline Personality Disorder diagnosis been considered and tossed out? If not, perhaps thats an avenue for discussion with the psychiatrists.</p><p></p><p>One thing with Borderline (BPD) is that repeated hospitalization is actually considered a way of feeding into the illness so hospitalizations in response to dramatic threats is discouraged. There is a fair amount of controversy about whether Borderline (BPD) might be on the bipolar spectrum but mood stabilizers can be effective at times.</p><p></p><p>And Borderline (BPD) has been shown to be somewhat responsive to a specific style of therapy - Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or DBT - in actual clinical trials. </p><p></p><p>Even if she doesn't have a Borderline (BPD) diagnosis, doing DBT might be helpful to her if she is having a lot of mood swings.</p><p></p><p>Finally, I want to tell you as others have done, YOU are not THE problem. While there may be ways you and husband are feeding into her behavior, most likely out of a lack of guidance from a well-qualified professional, the "professionals" in her life may be doing an even better job of that than you are and then blaming you when their approach fails.</p><p></p><p>I second the suggestion that you look for a really good therapist who is seasoned - like as in 20 years seasoned - and has extensive experience with disturbed adolescents. It may be someone who specializes in treating these children - that's what you want. Someone who knows the games and the strategies parents can use to counter the drama, accusations and poor quality care she may be getting from "professionals".</p><p></p><p>Have you alerted her therapist to the current drama especially the child abuse accusations? If not, I would do so and ask for a meeting with the therapist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 313724, member: 7948"] Sorry to hear about all the drama. Unfortunately it also sounds familiar from difficult child 1's time with us. Wish I could promise you that it's going to get better soon. I'm assuming you live somewhere other than the US since you talk about being unable to get psychiatric testing done. Here, unless you've been down this road already, you can ask for (and often get) some testing done by the schools. I agree with others who have talked about poor reality testing playing a part making it hard to be sure what she does or doesn't believe to be true. Asking the psychiatrist specifically about this may be helpful. I'm late to the game and don't have time to go back too far in your posts. So forgive me if I'm going over old ground but has a Borderline Personality Disorder diagnosis been considered and tossed out? If not, perhaps thats an avenue for discussion with the psychiatrists. One thing with Borderline (BPD) is that repeated hospitalization is actually considered a way of feeding into the illness so hospitalizations in response to dramatic threats is discouraged. There is a fair amount of controversy about whether Borderline (BPD) might be on the bipolar spectrum but mood stabilizers can be effective at times. And Borderline (BPD) has been shown to be somewhat responsive to a specific style of therapy - Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or DBT - in actual clinical trials. Even if she doesn't have a Borderline (BPD) diagnosis, doing DBT might be helpful to her if she is having a lot of mood swings. Finally, I want to tell you as others have done, YOU are not THE problem. While there may be ways you and husband are feeding into her behavior, most likely out of a lack of guidance from a well-qualified professional, the "professionals" in her life may be doing an even better job of that than you are and then blaming you when their approach fails. I second the suggestion that you look for a really good therapist who is seasoned - like as in 20 years seasoned - and has extensive experience with disturbed adolescents. It may be someone who specializes in treating these children - that's what you want. Someone who knows the games and the strategies parents can use to counter the drama, accusations and poor quality care she may be getting from "professionals". Have you alerted her therapist to the current drama especially the child abuse accusations? If not, I would do so and ask for a meeting with the therapist. [/QUOTE]
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