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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 480021" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I don't think so DJ- I think this just stays in his Department of Juvenile Justice file as 'sexual misconduct' but I'm not positive. He didn't try to rape someone or commit an offense against a child and it wasn't a street charge. I'm wondering if Donna will stop over and say what happens as a result of this type charge in adult prison. Of course, some things are stricter in Department of Juvenile Justice than in the adult system so who knows. The worst part about this charge is that it puts difficult child's release after next school semester starts, meaning he can't get any classes worth squat and this will mess him up academically. Will they move it up one week to coordinate with school- oh heck no. Their idea of coordinating with school is to let them know when the release date is.</p><p></p><p>I'm still reeling over PO talking out of both sides of his mouth. This isn't the first time he'd done this but at first, I thought it was because he was new in this jurisdiction, then I thought it was because he was just green altogether, but when he told difficult child that he'd let me come home but I wouldn't let him and I got mad he backtracked and tried to say I misunderstood but a day or two later I got a letter from difficult child saying that PO had told him this. I mentioned that to the attny I spoke with a couple of mos ago and she said 'no way PO would do that- I must have misunderstood and be believing my son when my son isn't telling the truth'. How would my son come up with that on his own at the same time PO told me this? And then he sets this meeting up telling me it was so we could go over things with re--entry lady and when I specifically asked the day before if this plan had been cast in stone or committed to, he told me 'no'. Yet his super and re-entry lady had been told differently. So that is why his super was reacting like I was in there trying to write the parole plan. Huh? He told me 'what the options were and told me to pick one'. He's back tracking on that now because his super is involved, is my guess and he he hadn't told her the truth about what he'd told me. He just told me that to force my hand. And watch and see- I bet he uses this stuff I typed up about my concerns re difficult child against me with difficult child. It has me fuming- he even told me when we met privately after the bigger meeting last week that he recommended difficult child coming home with caseworker and mentor- then the next time we talk it's this?</p><p></p><p>The attny I had spoken with said if he turned out to be a PO like this (yes, I asked about it some time ago due to previous issues with people in CSU), that we could talk with super. I told her then that my experience with talking to a POs super was that the super just backs the PO up. The attny said 'no, they won't do that'. I find it hared to believe that people in the system really thinkk others in this system are really that honest and straight forward. </p><p></p><p>And what's the deal with having meetings or phone calls to address concerns a parent has if none of it matters? If it's being dictated and ordered, they don't care what concerns a parent has. So why do they do this? Is it just to get the parent to buy into it? How can any parent buy into something when they know they are being manipulated?</p><p></p><p>More and more, I cans ee why parents legally walk from their kids when they get sent to Department of Juvenile Justice. They might as well- the only difference it makes is that if you don';t, you pay CS and can be found 'noncompliant' by the courts if you don't do whatever they order. The only thing they can take away from a parent is visitation rights if they think you aren't supporting their efforts. </p><p></p><p>The re-entry lady coulldn't or wouldn't give straight answers to questions about how this home runs- supposedly the plan is to re-unify the kid with the parents. But then she made it sound like once a kid works his way to get a day pass, it isn't to spend the day with parents- it's that he just gets to go out for the day- like he can just walk out the door and go anywhere and do anything and I don't even know if the parent would know or not. So if the point is really to get the boy out on his own, I suppose it's another situation where the parent is just in the picture to back uup whatever they say.</p><p></p><p>I can't help but wonder if PO and all this being up in the air had something to do with difficult child ending up with his punishment of having his time extended.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 480021, member: 3699"] I don't think so DJ- I think this just stays in his Department of Juvenile Justice file as 'sexual misconduct' but I'm not positive. He didn't try to rape someone or commit an offense against a child and it wasn't a street charge. I'm wondering if Donna will stop over and say what happens as a result of this type charge in adult prison. Of course, some things are stricter in Department of Juvenile Justice than in the adult system so who knows. The worst part about this charge is that it puts difficult child's release after next school semester starts, meaning he can't get any classes worth squat and this will mess him up academically. Will they move it up one week to coordinate with school- oh heck no. Their idea of coordinating with school is to let them know when the release date is. I'm still reeling over PO talking out of both sides of his mouth. This isn't the first time he'd done this but at first, I thought it was because he was new in this jurisdiction, then I thought it was because he was just green altogether, but when he told difficult child that he'd let me come home but I wouldn't let him and I got mad he backtracked and tried to say I misunderstood but a day or two later I got a letter from difficult child saying that PO had told him this. I mentioned that to the attny I spoke with a couple of mos ago and she said 'no way PO would do that- I must have misunderstood and be believing my son when my son isn't telling the truth'. How would my son come up with that on his own at the same time PO told me this? And then he sets this meeting up telling me it was so we could go over things with re--entry lady and when I specifically asked the day before if this plan had been cast in stone or committed to, he told me 'no'. Yet his super and re-entry lady had been told differently. So that is why his super was reacting like I was in there trying to write the parole plan. Huh? He told me 'what the options were and told me to pick one'. He's back tracking on that now because his super is involved, is my guess and he he hadn't told her the truth about what he'd told me. He just told me that to force my hand. And watch and see- I bet he uses this stuff I typed up about my concerns re difficult child against me with difficult child. It has me fuming- he even told me when we met privately after the bigger meeting last week that he recommended difficult child coming home with caseworker and mentor- then the next time we talk it's this? The attny I had spoken with said if he turned out to be a PO like this (yes, I asked about it some time ago due to previous issues with people in CSU), that we could talk with super. I told her then that my experience with talking to a POs super was that the super just backs the PO up. The attny said 'no, they won't do that'. I find it hared to believe that people in the system really thinkk others in this system are really that honest and straight forward. And what's the deal with having meetings or phone calls to address concerns a parent has if none of it matters? If it's being dictated and ordered, they don't care what concerns a parent has. So why do they do this? Is it just to get the parent to buy into it? How can any parent buy into something when they know they are being manipulated? More and more, I cans ee why parents legally walk from their kids when they get sent to Department of Juvenile Justice. They might as well- the only difference it makes is that if you don';t, you pay CS and can be found 'noncompliant' by the courts if you don't do whatever they order. The only thing they can take away from a parent is visitation rights if they think you aren't supporting their efforts. The re-entry lady coulldn't or wouldn't give straight answers to questions about how this home runs- supposedly the plan is to re-unify the kid with the parents. But then she made it sound like once a kid works his way to get a day pass, it isn't to spend the day with parents- it's that he just gets to go out for the day- like he can just walk out the door and go anywhere and do anything and I don't even know if the parent would know or not. So if the point is really to get the boy out on his own, I suppose it's another situation where the parent is just in the picture to back uup whatever they say. I can't help but wonder if PO and all this being up in the air had something to do with difficult child ending up with his punishment of having his time extended. [/QUOTE]
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