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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 480099" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I guess- except their form says "Parents informed of parole plan"____CHECK. They don't care if the parents agree or not. However, any of their behvaior mod 'therapy' requires the parent to be on board. So I'm non-compliant if I don't show up and agree with any treatment meeting the group home requires. Of course, this is only because PO decided that reunification was the goal- which was fine until finding out their plan to achieve it.</p><p></p><p>Step, I get it- I've told them before that they can choose between me working and paying CS/supporting difficult child at home or me being unemployed and homeless but making all the required appts, meetings, etc., because I'm also court ordered to pay CS thru DSS as long as difficult child is in their system and not living with me.</p><p></p><p>DF- I thouroughly understand your frustration with that idealistic plan for your difficult child. But right now, I'm thinking that's what difficult child needs to shoot for. If we take the goal of reunification off the table, difficult child only needs to concentrate on the requirements of the group home as they pertain to behavior there and obeying the law, without getting into family tensions. Unfortunately, that will mean either a group home until he's 18yo or graduates high school. Still, it seems so much easier. There's nothing to stop us from working things out or even living together once he's out of their system and 18yo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 480099, member: 3699"] I guess- except their form says "Parents informed of parole plan"____CHECK. They don't care if the parents agree or not. However, any of their behvaior mod 'therapy' requires the parent to be on board. So I'm non-compliant if I don't show up and agree with any treatment meeting the group home requires. Of course, this is only because PO decided that reunification was the goal- which was fine until finding out their plan to achieve it. Step, I get it- I've told them before that they can choose between me working and paying CS/supporting difficult child at home or me being unemployed and homeless but making all the required appts, meetings, etc., because I'm also court ordered to pay CS thru DSS as long as difficult child is in their system and not living with me. DF- I thouroughly understand your frustration with that idealistic plan for your difficult child. But right now, I'm thinking that's what difficult child needs to shoot for. If we take the goal of reunification off the table, difficult child only needs to concentrate on the requirements of the group home as they pertain to behavior there and obeying the law, without getting into family tensions. Unfortunately, that will mean either a group home until he's 18yo or graduates high school. Still, it seems so much easier. There's nothing to stop us from working things out or even living together once he's out of their system and 18yo. [/QUOTE]
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