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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 480123" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>DJ- PO isn't giving me a choice about it, as of yesterday- hursday at 5:00PM he was saying it was my choice and he'd check into somethings and get back to me on Monday. He never got back to me. This is why it hoovers that he acted like I was trying to take over yesterday when he's the one that led me to believe it was up to me. Anyway, now that we are looking at difficult child being so much closer to 18 before he even gets out of the group home, the question is 'is the goal of the group home to get him out on his own or re-unification with the family'. The PO, of course, made that choice on his own too and difficult child told re-entry lady he wanted to come home. The length of stay either way is around 6 mos or more if difficult child misbehaves- he has to earn his way out.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I told them this is probably what would be best if difficult child went to that group home because neither of our goals for him could be met otherwise and it would do more damage to our relationship, if not set him up for failure. And, I was going to be the one to determine when difficult child moves back in with me- not them. The sad thing is, it really wouldn't take that much, and it would cost less, just to give him a few weeks someplace else so we can see if he's going to try this time, then move back home. Oh-their only point right now seems to be that it's their decision. Obviously, PO has not owned up to his super that he told me and difficult child that it was up to me. And the two success stories on this place's website- geds and flipping hamburgers and living in an apartment. I wonder if those families thought the reunification plan was going to work? I wonder if those kids went in and jumped thru hoops thinking they were getting a diploma and help getting into college.</p><p></p><p>I guess I'll hire the attny and talk to difficult child over the next few weeks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 480123, member: 3699"] DJ- PO isn't giving me a choice about it, as of yesterday- hursday at 5:00PM he was saying it was my choice and he'd check into somethings and get back to me on Monday. He never got back to me. This is why it hoovers that he acted like I was trying to take over yesterday when he's the one that led me to believe it was up to me. Anyway, now that we are looking at difficult child being so much closer to 18 before he even gets out of the group home, the question is 'is the goal of the group home to get him out on his own or re-unification with the family'. The PO, of course, made that choice on his own too and difficult child told re-entry lady he wanted to come home. The length of stay either way is around 6 mos or more if difficult child misbehaves- he has to earn his way out. I told them this is probably what would be best if difficult child went to that group home because neither of our goals for him could be met otherwise and it would do more damage to our relationship, if not set him up for failure. And, I was going to be the one to determine when difficult child moves back in with me- not them. The sad thing is, it really wouldn't take that much, and it would cost less, just to give him a few weeks someplace else so we can see if he's going to try this time, then move back home. Oh-their only point right now seems to be that it's their decision. Obviously, PO has not owned up to his super that he told me and difficult child that it was up to me. And the two success stories on this place's website- geds and flipping hamburgers and living in an apartment. I wonder if those families thought the reunification plan was going to work? I wonder if those kids went in and jumped thru hoops thinking they were getting a diploma and help getting into college. I guess I'll hire the attny and talk to difficult child over the next few weeks. [/QUOTE]
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